Feeling good about yourself makes you more attractive to others. And as you love yourself, your life becomes less burdensome and relationships become easier and more spontaneous. You don’t spend your time second-guessing what others are thinking about you or where you stand in your various relationships. When you have an internal sturdiness deep within your core, you’re able to adapt easily to the inevitable ups and downs that come with relationships.
Are you ready to become a more vibrant, memorable, and attractive person? Are you ready to build your charisma and create strong relationships with others who generally enjoy your company? Stop thinking you are boring or unattractive and take proactive steps to improve your own self-confidence and gain a greater appreciation in the eyes of others.
1. Embrace a healthy lifestyle
A healthy body is very often considered an attractive trait. This doesn’t mean you need to become a body builder or marathon runner. Start by making basic healthy decisions in your everyday life, and take it from there. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can demonstrate maturity and responsibility, which are attractive traits to a potential mate.
2. Always be ready to tell a good story
Even if your life is generally quiet and lacking adventure or drama, you should always be able to answer the question “What’s new?” with something other than “Not much.” Confident people are good conversationalists, but it’s a skill that some people need to practice more than others. Are you planning a vacation? Remodeling part of your house? Running kids around to sporting events? Invested in a big project at work that’s demanding your attention? Find something interesting to say when someone starts a conversation.
3. Believe in yourself
If you’re confident in your skin and believe in yourself and your qualities, it will radiate from yourself to other people. Everyone likes to speak to someone who is confident in their skin. Focusing on how others may or may not be judging you wastes precious time that could be spent on getting what you want out of life. Ask yourself these questions: What brings me happiness? What would I like to accomplish in this life? What brings me a feeling of well-being and contentment? And then quiet the voice in your head that second-guess your choices, and start living for yourself. This will attract the right people, things and situations in your life. Ultimately, the key to an attractive personality is in your hands.
4. Accept yourself and the weaknesses that come with it
Very often, we tend to focus on our self-imagined negative aspects and assume that people will not like us because of them. But the point is, if you don’t love yourself then how can someone else do the same. It’s important to accept yourself, along with your weaknesses, and acknowledge your strengths. No one is perfect – don’t aim to be it. It’s a humble journey of accepting and supporting yourself to be the best version of yourself at most times. The direct result of this is that your persona gets attuned to grow, transform and evolve, which in turn causes others to get attracted to you. It’s not working on outwardly looks and material things; it’s the inward journey that gives the simple reward of an attractive personality.
5. Give some compliments
Getting some love from others might seem like the easiest way to boost your self image, but actually you might want to practice giving some love first. Talking up good traits about others will help you seem more appealing in their eyes and make you realize the good things about yourself, too. Making other people feel good about themselves increases your attractiveness. People put effort into getting ready for a date so take the time to compliment the other person and mean it.
6. Put a smile on
It’s no secret that smiling makes you seem warm and inviting to other people, which can help how they see you. But it turns out you may even get the same benefits by looking in a mirror and smiling at yourself. You don’t have to be fake – just evince interest in people and give them genuine smiles when you speak with them. That will automatically make you more attractive.
7. Practice good posture
Do not slouch — it communicates you lack faith in yourself. If this is a weak area for you, try posting a note on the edge of your computer display with a reminder such as an up-arrow in thick red marker. To correct yourself, roll your shoulders back and imagine pulling a string from the top of your head, elongating your spine and raising your chin so it’s in a neutral, forward-facing position.
8. Eliminate negative self-talk
Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself within your mind. Every time you think something like “I can’t do this,” replace it with something positive such as “I’m going to give it my best shot.” The key is to step out of yourself and look at your self-talk as an outsider. How would it make you feel to hear someone sitting next to you say “I’m so [fat, dumb, ugly, slow, etc.]?” Pretty harsh, right? Nurture yourself within your thought life, just as you would with someone else.
9. Be a good listener
People are always attracted to those who listen to what they’re saying, ask questions and offer advice or opinions. The latter points prove to them that the other person is interested in their views. Besides, a good listener is always appreciated, even in a casual social environment.
10. Have a sense of humor
Laughing and joking can make you more at ease, so if you try and laugh off a small thing that would normally get under your skin, you can take some pressure off of yourself, which can make you see yourself in a positive light. It is perfectly okay to be imperfect — no one has to be perfect all of the time. It is important not to let others define you and to just be you. Cracking a joke can help others see you as more attractive, too.
11. Fake it until you make it
The easiest way to make yourself feel confident? Act like you already are. When you challenge yourself to feel good about yourself, it will show and others will take notice. The way you enter a room or share a glance are indicators of your confidence working for you or against you. It is all about your smile, body language and even eye contact. When you feel odd or awkward people can pick up on that uneasiness which will equate to whether or not you are perceived as attractive.