We know that a kiss is one of the many things that holds a relationship together. A kiss is the start to all things beautiful- a strong bond, comfort, coziness and more. Kisses can often be underrated, but trust us when we say that it is one of the best forms of intimacy. Some men just prefer foreplay and then intercourse, they just dislike kissing for too long. On the other hand, there are several women who swoon over a good, passionate kiss.
Irrespective of which category you fall under, there are some things that you should never do while kissing.
1. Don’t lead with your tongue.
One of the leading causes of bad kissing experiences is when one kissing participant leans into that first kiss with their tongue sticking out. First of all, this can be extremely intimidating and disgusting when your partner is coming at you, eyes closed and tongue out. Most people, when having a first kiss, prefer just lips. Tongue is usually something that individuals add later to their kissing. It is better to save it for when you have become comfortable with the task and being with that other person. Always lead with your lips because that is what kissing starts with and what most people are expecting! If you lead with your tongue, there is no knowing what kind of terror the other person is experiencing. Don’t be a bad kisser.
2. Keep your bucket full of saliva at home.
While everyone produces a different amount of saliva, you can control the amount that ends up on your kissing partner’s face. Try not to push too much saliva out of your mouth while kissing and be careful with how wide the motions of your mouth are. If you’re getting their chin wet, you’ve probably gone too far. No one should need a towel for their face after a make-out session.
3. Avoid staring her while kissing.
Something that you should never do when kissing is to stare at them the whole time it is happening. It might be tempting to see what their reaction is and see their face, but to keep your eyes open the whole time can freak your partner out. If suddenly they opened their eyes slowly and noticed you staring with big eyes right at them, they will most likely be turned off. If you get to a point in a relationship where perhaps keeping your eyes open is okay depending on a situation, then go for it! For first kisses though, it is best to keep your eyes shut to have a good kissing experience.
4. Stop thinking so much about your next move.
This is not chess. It’s kissing. And while it’s tempting to want to over analyze what the other person will probably do next so you can be prepared, all it really does is take you out of the moment, which the opposite of where you want to be. No matter how you see a kiss, if you’re thinking about what’s coming next or what you’re going to make for dinner that night, you’re not going to perform your best. Don’t go through the motions. If you care about the person, kissing can be an important way to connect with them physically. If you are too busy thinking about the angle of your head and what your lips should be doing at the moment, you are not going to be present in the moment and your partner will feel that. Relax, don’t think so much, and you will figure it out as you go along!
5. Don’t make awkward jokes
Talking about kissing is always fun. Saying things like “I can’t wait to kiss you” or “you always know how to take my breath away” can be romantic and sweet. They inform the person you are with that you enjoy kissing him. That being said, you should never make extremely awkward jokes when kissing. There is nothing worse to ruin the moment with your man than saying something weird. This could involve discussing in detail what he was doing with his lips, or saying, in the middle of a kiss, something such as “your lips are wet and yummy, kind of like the soup my mom makes for me.” Don’t ruin your relationship by saying strange things and weirding out your partner. Stick to the cute and romantic things, and if you accidentally say something that sounds awkward, make a joke about it!
6. Don’t show too much aggression.
Sometimes kissing can be fun to add a little bit of aggression. Whether that is gently biting, pulling hair a bit, or squeezing them a little tighter. One thing you should never do when kissing is be too aggressive. As fun as it may be to be tough on them and feel playful, it is important to be aware of how hard you are biting or how rough you are being to them. They are still human and pain is real! Don’t get too caught in the moment of playful aggression and end up hurting your partner. Be gentle with them and remember that you are still trying to show affection and not actually beat them up! It is a good thing to be aware of how your partner is reacting to your actions, because if they are backing away and have a worried or pained look on their face, they probably are not enjoying it.
7. Don’t look away while kissing
Opening your eyes from time to time – acceptable. Pulling away from time to time – acceptable. Looking somewhere else throughout the experience –Highly unacceptable. It gives the impression that you are bored and want to do something else. Unless you don’t want to, don’t look away.
8. Don’t only focus on the lips.
Switch it up. A peck is always nice, but if you’re only kissing on the lips, you’re doing it wrong. The book “The Science of Kissing” showed that women love to be kissed on the neck, but even if you’re kissing another gender, it doesn’t hurt to switch it up. Kiss their neck, ears, cheek, shoulder — you name it. This shows that you have range and will keep them guessing, so don’t limit yourself.
9. Don’t forget to breathe.
Kissing sessions can sometimes get intense and you both will find that you are gasping for air. The heat of the moment has taken away your breath and left your heart racing! This is all fine, but be sure to never leave your partner gasping for air because you have not given them the chance to breath! This usually occurs when you are kissing so hard that you have your face pressed so close to his that he has no chance to take in a breath. Let your man breathe! It is one thing to leave him gasping for air because you are taking his breath away, but it is not good when he literally cannot breath.
10. Avoid all that burping and all.
One of the most embarrassing things you can do when kissing is to accidentally let out a burp in their mouth. There will be nothing more traumatizing for both you and your partner when this occurs. To avoid this, ensure that if you are on a date that you stay away from carbonated drinks, especially if you know kissing is on the table later! In some cases you will be able to swallow back your burp when kissing. It is important to continue to be aware of your body when kissing and avoid embarrassing yourself. If it cannot be helped and you know the burp is going to come up, do yourself and your partner a favor and break the kiss and turn away. Do not burp into their mouth.
11. Don’t lick their teeth
We told you how you should not use too much of your tongue. What you should also know is that when you do use your tongue, use it in the right way. French kiss is beautiful and sexy, however it can get sloppy and gross if you do not know how to do it right. Never lick your partner’s teeth while kissing, it is weird AF!
12. Avoid giggling while kissing
This is mostly done by women. Giggling while kissing is a big turn off and it is one of the worst things you could do. You might be doing it to cover your nervousness or because you find the whole act of kissing funny. Whatever your reason is, it ruins the moment and your partner might just lose interest.