Winning over a girl’s heart is not an easy task. It is complicated because the truth is they never really know what they want. They might seem to have everything figured out, but truly they are lost – not all the girls, of course; just a few! Love is all about being spontaneous, and that love can never be forced. It is believed that it happens miraculously when the perfect dream guy is around. What if I told you that there is a secret list of qualities for the perfect lover boy every girl dreams of? When it comes to pursuing a girl, always take things slow. Pursue her, but at the same time, make her work for your affection too. It’s great to follow your instincts in life, but when it comes to falling in love, your inexperienced instincts will always lead you straight into the middle of the firing zone.
Take it slow, and use these tips on how to win a girl’s heart effortlessly in no time:
1. Be well-groomed
The first impression is the best impression. The first thing your dream girl will notice about you is your physical appearance. Being physically well-groomed says a lot about yourself. Nobody wants to be in love with a shabby or a messy person. Make sure your everyday clothing makes you look perfect. Have a sense of style. Always have a tidy and a pleasing appearance when you are around her. Make sure you smell good. This is all it takes to get her attention.
2. Have some confidence
To be genuinely lovable, you have to believe that you are worth being around. Most girls aren’t attracted to people who are constantly putting themselves down. So be confident, but not cocky. Know what you are good at. Don’t brag about it or show off, but put these things into your routine and don’t be afraid to let them shine every once in a while.
3. Let her see that you have a life
Keep yourself busy and involve yourself in different activities. Go on out there and enjoy the world, be it by trekking over the weekend, joining a few fun clubs or even doing something new with your friends. The more interesting you and your conversations are, the more awed by you she’ll be.
4. Show her your lovable qualities
People don’t just decide with whom they want to fall in love. Love happens because the people involved have lovable qualities. Love often develops over time, so your job is to show the girl that you’re worth being around. Let your personality shine through, and give her the chance to see who you really are and what you have to offer. It turns out that people often find traits such as humor, kindness, and honesty make you more physically attractive!
5. Don’t reveal your insecurity
Never reveal your jealous streak to the girl you like, especially if she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys who are trying to woo her at the same time. If she sees you as an insecure and jealous guy, she’ll just think you’re a creepy guy. A little bit of jealousy is cute, but only after she starts showing signs of liking you back.
6. Compliment her
Compliment her on her looks, style, her smartness, or for how awesome she is. There is no harm in complimenting the girl of your dreams; don’t shy away. Be sincere and real when you compliment. Don’t over-compliment because it might look weird and a little too obvious that you are into her.
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7. Get a sense of humor
It’s no secret that girls love others who can crack a joke or be funny — in fact, it’s science! Practice jokes on your friends every so often, and learn the jokes that work and the ones that don’t work. When you’re alone with a girl, telling a joke can be a great way to break the tension. Remember: if you’re not good at jokes, you can still have a good sense of humor — you just have to love laughing and being around people who are funny. Being a good audience is as important as being funny yourself.
8. Know your girl’s interest
It is good to know the interests of your dream girl when you are trying to get into a relationship with her. Know what she is good at, her passion, her likes, and dislikes. If you find that you have same everyday interests, you are in luck! Share your ideas and views, have a good conversation with her about your everyday interests. Make her aware that you have so much in common. Sometimes, it is really surprising when you find that you share no mutual interests with your special lady. Try to develop an interest towards her interests; there is no harm in getting to know and like new stuff. Spend some time with her doing things that she likes. This gives you a chance to get closer to her and to know her better. Remember, life gets even more exciting when you drift away from your everyday life and try new things.
9. Take her out on great dates
Bonding over something she likes doesn’t need to be a date, but if you want love to blossom, you’re going to have to ask her on a date at some point. When you’re ready to take that step, try someplace familiar like the movies, a coffee shop, or a dance. Maybe try taking her to an amusement park or a haunted house; studies suggest that excitement or a sense of danger on a date helps release a chemical in the brain that bonds the two people together.
10. Try a gentle touch if you sense that she is inviting you
Touching is a great way to signal physical attraction. If you have been talking for a while and the girl seems interested in you, you can try a light brush of her arm or touch her hand. Do not touch a girl unless she is giving you strong signals that she is into you. Even then, proceed with caution. It is usually a good idea to wait until she has initiated some type of touch.
11. Be a good listener
To communicate better, you need to be a good listener. Be an active listener, which means listen and respond to what she has to say. Being a good listener is not an easy task. But when you are a good listener, it speaks a lot about you. It shows her that you care about her. It makes her feel special when you are all ears with her. Make her feel comfortable around you. Pay attention even to the small details – as girls do care about them a lot. It will just let her know that you care for her and her needs.
12. Maintain eye contact
Having eye contact with a girl is very powerful; it shows her that you are very attentive and you care for her. It is a way of staying connected with her as you get to know her emotions. Eyes NEVER lie, so when you look into her eyes, it means you are actually looking through the window to her heart. It is a way of getting an intimate bond with her. Making eye contact with her truly means that you are giving your undivided attention, and that is a great way to win her over.
13. Flirt friendly and naughty
She’d have a harder time flirting with you if there are other guys around, so try to get some alone time with her when you get the opportunity. If you want to take it slow because you’re uncertain about her feelings for you, start by flirting as a friend.
14. Don’t expect her to change
In fact, if you can eliminate most of your “expectations” about her, you will probably be happier in your relationship. We often expect unreasonable things from other people that can make us feel anxious and unhappy when we don’t get them.
15. Give your girl her personal space
Personal space plays a vital role as it helps her to keep in touch with her own identity. Give her the space she needs in the relationship. This doesn’t mean playing hard-to-get, but give the girl control over what happens next. Suffocating her and bullying her into a relationship will do the opposite of what you’re hoping for. Show her you respect her life outside of you; when you give a girl room to breathe, she will often come to love you on her own terms.
16. Respect her thoughts, feelings and emotions
Try to see things from her point of view. Show her you appreciate her opinions, even if you disagree with them. It helps to ask her about these things, rather than making assumptions. When she talks to you about her thoughts or feelings, listen.
17. Make her feel special
Everybody loves to feel special. This is especially true when you are trying to make your lover girl fall in love with you. Make sure you treat her right. To make your girl fall in love with you, make her feel that she is the most special girl in your life. Respect her individuality and appreciate her uniqueness – this will make her feel special. Spend time with her, text her just because you want to, treat her in such a way that she feels like a princess, remember her important dates, and notice even the little changes in her. These are a few ways in which you can make her feel special.
18. Gain her trust
Trust is the basis for love. If there is no trust, it is difficult to fall in love. Build her trust, share your feelings with her, and help her see and understand the true you. This way, she can get to know your true heart and understand your feelings. Admit when you are wrong. It takes a brave heart to admit that you were wrong. Be courageous and accept the truth. Owning up to our mistakes is not a quality everybody possesses, but if you possess it, it is a sure way to gain her trust.
19. Make her miss you
This is a short phase you need to make her go through for a few days so she can realize just how much she likes you once you’re past the other steps. After both of you have become really close to each other, make her miss you now and then. When you’re having an interesting conversation with her, tell her you have to go and hang up just when the conversation starts to get interesting. It’s the easiest way to help her realize how much she needs you in her life!
It’s easy to make a girl fall in love with you. All you need to do is play it safe and smooth and avoid making your intentions clear right at the beginning. Make her understand that she has no obligation to love you back and that she can take her time to figure out how she feels about you. Be patient and keep loving – she will be around.