The first date is a big one. The biggest probably. Every successful relationship started with a great first date. But they are the most difficult to nail. First dates are like job interviews. If you say the wrong things, or fail to groom, or put up a gross show, then chances are you’re going to stay unemployed. When you’re on that first date, be on your best behavior. We tell you how!
1) Avoid the ex-factor
Or anyone you’ve slept with. Don’t go there. There have been many instances where the dinner date started out with a lot of promise only to end up even before the main course has arrived. Why? Because too many people bring the exes to the table with them. No one wants to hear about your sad past on the first date. Keep the information to yourself unless you want to hear about her ex as well. ‘Cuz that’s only fair!
2) Don’t let your eyes wander
For the sake of the possibility of future dates with her, limit your vision to her face, the menu or your server’s face. Because your date is watching you, and rather closely. Your date notices when that hottie enters the room and bends over to adjust her shoes. She also notices your reaction. Don’t give any, and you’ll score extra brownie points.
3) Know the line between confidence and arrogance
There’s confidence and there’s arrogance. The former is loved by women. It makes you seem at ease with who you are and what you represent. The latter is a cover-up for all your hidden insecurities, which are not really hidden to begin with. Arrogance might have worked for you in college, but this one’s a real date, friend. It will only make you look childish.
4) Don’t get too drunk
Having a couple of drinks to loosen up on a first date is totally normal. But, guzzling bottles of tequila or beer is a major red flag that says ‘raging alcoholic’ or ‘too timid to deal with reality.’ Save those fun facts for the third or the fourth date. Know your limits and stop at the right moment.
5) Your date is not the phone
Sure, phones are great. Smartphones even more so. They offer so much and never let you have any dull moment alone. But, hey a gentle reminder – you are not alone! When you get to your date, put your Smartphone in your pocket and leave it there. Otherwise, it will give the impression that you are not interested in her. Besides, it’s downright rude, too. Also, avoid the urge to check your messages and text a friend while you’re on a date.