What A True Love is? Myths vs. Realities of Great Love
#3. MYTH:
If what you both have is true love, then you two should still be feeling butterflies when you’re around each other.
#3. REALITY:
That stuff fades. No, really, it does. And if it doesn’t, there may be bigger problems in your relationship. When you’re truly in love with someone, that love brings you a sense of peace, calm and security. That’s not to say that looking across a room and catching your spouse’s eye doesn’t still give you a zing once in a while, but if you’re walking around with a perpetual case of butterflies, years later, you may want to talk to a doc.
#2. MYTH:
When you’re truly in love, the sex is magical, frequent and easy.
#2. REALITY:
Although sex in real-world relationships has its ups and downs — sometimes you’re in the mood when your partner isn’t and vice versa — it may not always be as explosive as you’d like it to be. As time goes on, in a comfortable, loving relationship, sometimes you have to schedule time or squeeze it in whenever you can, because life gets in the way. You both need to put in the effort and realize how important physical connection is to maintain a good relationship. You need to take the time to learn what works for the both of you, whether it’s helping with the dishes or giving a really off-the-charts amazing massage. Sometimes, you must make the connection happen.
#1. MYTH:
If you’re truly in love, all of your happiness will stem from your partner and your relationship.
#1. REALITY:
Part of healthy love and relationships is a strong sense of self. If you’re not happy, secure and fulfilled individually, you’re not going to be any of those things in a relationship. So don’t feel guilty about keeping your once-a-week coffee date with your friends, or about going to a football game with the boys. Reasonable individual passions and pursuits will do nothing but strengthen your relationship.
Always remember, gentlemen, that great love is not about big, flashy gestures — it’s about the little things: the loving hug at the end of a long day and the nice kiss to go along with it, holding hands when you go out to dinner, and making sure you’re touching in bed at night, even when you’re both upset with each other. True love is about going out of your way to make the person you love happy, and most importantly, it’s about loving each other even when you hate each other. If you have found this kind of love, cherish it and consider it your own version of an adult fairy tale.
