When you’re working hard and doing all you can to achieve your goals, anything that can give you an edge is powerful and will streamline your path to success. If you want to improve communication with the person around you, you want to keep and honestly try to change bad habits.
Instead of wondering worn questions like “how are you? what do you do? “which often continue to answer” Super or here “there are several ways in which you can chat better and more constructive with people around you.
Mind tricks won’t make you a Jedi, but using the brain’s natural quirks to your advantage can have a positive impact on everyone you encounter. None of these tricks are deceitful or disingenuous.
The key to captivating conversation is moving past routine politeness. Here are a few smart ways to improve your communication skills:
1. Smile when you speak
Smiling at appropriate times in person (even on the phone, or via Skype) improves your tone of voice and promotes a friendlier atmosphere. You can test its immediate value by listening to your more appealing voice when you smile and when you don’t.
This one goes back to the idea that we mirror the behavior of those around us. If you show excitement when you see someone, they naturally mirror that excitement back at you. It’s an easy way to make a strong first impression and to get people to like you.
2. Make your greetings personal and positive
Experiment with phrases such as “It’s so good to see you,” “Let’s connect a bit later” and other positive comments. Use them when you just want to move on, but in a pleasant way, or to keep the door open for a meaningful conversation. These options seem better than being a “How are you?” person who just keeps talking or walking.
3. Silence gets answers.
When you ask someone a question and they’re slow to respond, don’t feel pressure to move the conversation forward. Remaining silent plays to your advantage. Moments of silence make people feel as though they should speak, especially when the ball is in their court. This is a great tool to use in negotiations and other difficult conversations. Just make certain you resist the urge to move the conversation forward until you get your answer.
4. Express genuine interest to deepen conversations
Show that you are interested and you don’t respond mechanically. So you will gain confidence and empathy in humans.Hold interest in other people’s words and then talk about common interests and achievements, experiences and collaborations.
5. People remember unfinished things better.
The natural tendency to remember unfinished things is called the Zeigarnik effect. Ever notice how some television commercials get cut off early? The company paying for the commercial cuts it off so that it sticks in your head longer than other commercials. The best way to forget unfinished things (commercials or songs) is to finish them in your head. If a song gets stuck in your head, try singing the last lines to yourself. You’ll be amazed how quickly it goes away.