The whole concept of a guy who never grows old and mature is pretty encouraged and even took in a romantic manner in our society nowadays. It is considered to be sexy or simply said that it’s the way men are. Unfortunately, women are the ones that have to pay the price for all this because they are the ones that have to basically keep an eye on these ‘men’. She does all the work and he’s the one chilling and being ‘just the way he is.’
This may even describe the fact that men benefit more than women in the marriage. It is simple and pretty straightforward… you see a man happy after marriage, has a better physical health after marriage, and even get wealthier in most cases. The same can’t be said for the women, women only benefit from the marriage if it’s a long-term one and it also depends on the value of the relationship.
Imagine that you start to date someone who you will have to carry along with you for your whole life or someone who you can rely on. What seemed exciting and sexy in the beginning can eventually turn out to be something deadweight that you will have to deal with your whole life, including looking after your children and your job as well.
Here are 5 simple ways you can tell if you are dating this ‘man child’ you will have to look after or not!
1.You are always picking up after him!
This is literally everything from the very common stuff like, grabbing his garments and food around your mutual living space—to the more genuine ones, for example, covering him by paying his debts, or even selecting Christmas or birthday presents for his friends or family members. At the point when something turns out badly with his work or companions, you are the person who, again, saves his a*s.
You end up rationalizing him, legitimizing his poor decisions, and attempting to see thingsfrom his point of view more than your own. At the point when individuals don’t completelygrow up, they try to load most of their work to those nearest to them. It can be okay, however in the event that you are rationalizing, stop and consider why you’re really doing this all for a developed man?
2. When you try to talk about kids or responsibility, it brings frenzy to his eyes!
When you have dated for quite a while, you raise the questions about your future together. And after that, you instantly see alarms raise and a yearning to escape. Faulting your strategy, you pledge to yourself to bring it up all the more calmly next time. At that point, you bring it up in a clowning way. But you look over and see that same frenzy in his eyes and inside a half-hour of your joke, he leaves the room. On the off-chance that after a sensible measure of time, you can’t raise the future on any level and have a sensible talk about it, you are in a relationship with a ‘man child.’
3. You are always nagging!
You hear yourself pestering him, but you can’t stop. You feel that in the event that you don’t help him to remember what he needs to do, or ought to do, he would never really do it. You constantly get yourself frustrated and let down as he doesn’t finish arrangements or duties. He instructs you to quit annoying him, yet when you attempt to have a genuine discussion about what troubles you, he closes you down.
The “bother” dependably gets the awful press, however when you look more profound, the pestering is typically the consequence of somebody not assuming full liability for himself and his activities. Be that as it may, similar to the upbringing of a child, every time you bother you empower his practices. Rather than owning what he did not do, he can avoid it through pointing the finger at you for being such a grumbling bother.
4. He keeps away from genuine discussion
When you stop the pestering and attempt to raise more profound issues or the more profound needs, he makes fun of them, avoids the topic, checks his cellphone, and etc. The exact opposite thing a “man child” needs is a fight, and he will do anything to leave one speechless.
When you attempt to draw something genuine out into the open, check whether you are the one retreating from the discussion by apologizing for something you wronged. Do you think your topic never gets tended to and you end up discussing what you did wrong that set off his poor conduct
5. His hobbies and companionships convey a middle or high school feel.
When he hangs out with his friends, he turns into a pre-adult once more. He can’t keep grown-up points of confinement with liquor, drugs, takes an interest in tricks or for the most part returns to a middle school comical inclination. Men who never grow up don’t know how to manage grown-up ladies who need to have grown-up discussion.
Truth be told, the more immature your man, all the more “nurturing” you might be in his nearness. It’s difficult to give up in the event when you have a feeling that you are the one and only watching the controls. Also, it’s considerably harder to have a flourishing grown-up intimate relationship with somebody who is lauding his school days or always needs to hang with the folks.