It’s always good to put in the effort in a relationship. After all, the best things in life never come easy. And if you want the kind of love that you think you deserve, you’re going to have to make sure that you put in the work to earn it. Love was never designed to be easy after all. So it’s only normal that you have to work for it a little bit. However, it also gets to a point where you need to make sure that your efforts aren’t being wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Remember that you are only human and that you have your own limitations as well. You shouldn’t really be wasting your time and energy on someone who just isn’t worth what you’re giving.
1. It’s always about her
You got a promotion (score!), and your lady wants to talk about the Kardashians. Sound familiar? When you’re excited about work or life goals, but she’s switching the subject to involve her interests, she doesn’t care about you. This is a sure sign she is selfish.
2. She’s too nice to say no
Girls with this type of mindset should probably realize that it’s more damaging to prolong the agony of the rejection instead of just telling a guy to move on. They will allow you to court them, but will make no promises for plausible deniability’s sake. This means that they’re probably not that nice if they can make you work for something that you won’t even get.
3. She’s always busy
You should respect a person’s priorities, especially if you are not in a relationship. If a lot is going on in a girl’s life, then she probably isn’t ready to date yet. A woman who really likes you will voluntarily shift some things on her calendar to have brunch or dinner with you.
4. You share fundamentally different values
It’s just hard whenever you share fundamentally different values and principles in life. It’s so hard to establish a sense of compatibility between the two of you if you just virtually disagree on fundamental principles. You need to be on reconcilable moral planes if you want your relationship to last.
5. She name-drops her ex
It’s bad enough to hear about one ex-file, but an entire encyclopedia worth of info? No thanks. “This means that she has not grieved him, and you are in danger of being the rebound boyfriend. She is using you to escape her pain, rather than choosing you out of desire. Getting a little history on her most recent relationship, to gauge if enough time has passed since her ex, is acceptable, as it’s important to ensure she’s had space to be alone.
6. She has a lot of hang-ups
Don’t we all? But this girl has so many hang-ups that you can’t even set foot within a three-foot radius of her without offending her. She is probably setting up a torrent of defense mechanisms just to keep you away rather than rejecting you altogether.
7. She is hot and cold with you
She’s inconsistent. She’s mostly ever really nice to you only when she feels like she can gain something out of it. But otherwise, she’s very cold with you. She wouldn’t even make an effort to acknowledge you existence if she could help it. Her kind treatment towards you is never consistent.
8. She’s always on her phone when you’re together
This is the age of the smartphones. People are ALWAYS on their phones. The same should not be applied when you’re on a date. The reason why she’s so interested in her phone when she’s with you is because she cares about it more. Unless you can post her photos on Instagram and live-Tweet your date for her, you’re pretty useless at that specific moment.
9. She doesn’t stay loyal to you
She cheats on you. Plain and simple. She just can’t seem to stay loyal and commit to you. She would rather have irresponsible fun at the expense of your feelings than stay committed to you. She’s not really serious about making things work with you – so you shouldn’t be with her either.