In a relationship, there is always the risk that it’ll end, either mutually, or because of you, or because of him. Not all relationships have happy endings and sometimes those ends come after plenty of warning signs and red flags. If you’re in a relationship with a guy that is going down-hill, there are some definite signs to look out for.

If you want to make sure you don’t fall into that trap, make sure to keep an eye out for the following warning signs he wants to break up with you.

1. He’s spending more and more time away

If your man is thinking about leaving, he doesn’t want to be around you. He’ll often work late or go spend time with his friends a lot more than he used to. If he’s avoiding being alone with you, something is up.

2. He hides his relationship with you on social media

If he is not open to others about his relationship status with you on Facebook or even hiding his status then he may be indicating to other women that he is single, and just keeping you “on the back burner” until something better comes along.

3. Fighting has become more frequent

In a relationship, fights are all but inevitable. However, you may have noticed that recently your man seems to be picking more fights and getting into an argument over the dumbest of things. This may be because he is planning his way out and is trying to distance himself from you and the relationship. Fights build tension and take some of the blame off of him.

4. He stops asking you questions about your life

If he stops asking you about how your day went, what you are planning to do this evening or how your visit to the doctor went then he is indicating a lack of interest in a future with you.

5. No sexual intimacy

Sex is a major part of a relationship. And sure, you could just be in a sex rut. But if you try to get things going and he’s really not into it, then something is definitely wrong. Refusal to have sex or an absence of initiation on his end are major signs he wants to break up.

6. He’s hardly ever in a good mood around you

It’s not that he’s just cranky in general, but it’s around you. He could come home happy and playful but when you try to engage with him, he shuts down and is suddenly upset about seemingly nothing. Well, that seemingly nothing is probably just you.

7. You often feel more alone with him than without him

Generally speaking, if you feel this way about your relationship, it’s because this actually is the case. If you legitimately feel like he’s left you alone in your own relationship, the relationship can’t really be salvaged in most cases.

8. Nothing you ever do seems good enough for him

If you’re with a person that you don’t want to be with, feeling appreciative of anything they do will just not happen. There’s nothing that you can say or do that will make him be appreciative, no matter what you try. If you feel like all the sweet gestures you make are going unnoticed — or worse, are being torn apart — then it’s time to break things off. This isn’t a healthy or happy relationship.

9. Nothing he used to like is working anymore

You make him his favorite meal, and he doesn’t even notice. You try to tell some jokes he used to love, and he hardly quirks a lip. If nothing you used to do to make him happy is working anymore, things might be over already.