Often when we fall in love and get swept away by someone, we just as easily sweep the little transgressions and relationship red flags under the rug as well. We blind ourselves to the things that tell us that someone is maybe not fully ready to be in a committed relationship, or lacks the ability to give us what we need. Love has the power to make a normal person the most exceptional human on earth for you. Your loved ones become so special to you that you forget everything else around you. You consider your partner as the most important person and at times you give them priority above all other relations. At times you believe them to be even more important than your own self.
Though it’s really impossible to say for certain what the one, true, correct way for everyone to be treated in relationships, there are a few guidelines of common decency you can follow if and when you ever find yourself questioning whether or not your are in a right relationship.
1. He always make you feel beautiful.
He understands that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he looks at you, touches you and treats you. He notices details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he still finds you, even when you don’t. He understands that whether you are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown heading to a gala, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.
2. He always inspires you to grow.
To inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life and how they encourage others to live theirs. His drive and ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions. In the best relationships, you don’t desire to make that other person your whole life, and they don’t want that either. They not only give you the space to maintain your life beyond the relationship, but they make you want to be as wholly yourself as possible.
3. He spends time because he really want to.
He doesn’t take spending time with you as a duty. He wants to spend time because he loves you and wants you to be present around him all the time. He loves your company and your presence.
4. He makes you feel pretty no matter what.
At a certain point in a relationship, he might not tell you how gorgeous you are all day every day but you should still feel like he thinks that without him having to say it as often as he used to. Even if he doesn’t have time for elaborate expressions of romance each day, just a simple touch, or look, or gesture says it all.
5. He feeds not just your body, but your mind.
He might buy you dinner; he might make it for you. A man who’s in love lives to satisfy his woman — and that’s equally through her stomach as it is through her passions and soul. He’ll just as easily buy you chocolates as he would books because he knows enriching you is his favorite hobby and it makes the both of you better.
6. He loves surprising you.
Maybe he’ll buy you little gifts. Maybe he’ll pick you some flowers. Maybe he’ll clean your apartment while you’re away at work or running errands. Maybe he’ll book you a trip around the world or simply pack the two of you a surprise picnic. When a man makes a point to surprise you, he understands the importance of keeping the excitement in a relationship alive.
7. He consults you before he makes big decisions.
In a relationship, it’s important to share the decision-making. He values your opinions and suggestion because he values you and your presence in their lives. Such partners are hard to find, we should also value them and always hold them close to our hearts.
8. The only time he makes you cry is from happiness.
There should be nothing in the world that breaks his heart like watching you cry – really cry. He hates the thought of you feeling hurt and even goes as far as to share in your pain. It’s not that he’s trying to, although given the chance, he’d change places in an instance; it’s just that he can’t help it. He hurts when you hurt. It’s out of his control.
9. He keeps his promises.
He may not make many of them – if only to lessen the chances of having to break them – but when he makes a promise, he always delivers. He knows you have faith in him and he will never ever disappoint you. He just wants you to be happy.