Being successful with women is more than just personality but being able to overcome “game killers” in the bedroom. Most men assume that all a woman needs is good food, a car and high heels. No! Women are very keen when it comes to those small details in the bedroom. While you may seem to think you’re God’s gift to women (which could be true), there are some things women hate in bed and they may not tell you about it, to keep your manhood intact! So if you know these things before hand and not do them instead or substitute them with something more innovative and fresh, you’ll probably win a lot more brownie points in bed, than you do now. So sit back, relax, wipe that frown off of your face and yes, thank us later!
For all the men out there serving up cold leftovers in bed, here are the things you’re doing horribly, horribly wrong, according to women who constantly endure them.
1. Roughing It Up
Tonight’s not the last night to pump it up. Be good today, you’ll have many more nights. Majority of women hate the animalistic behaviour of men in bed, especially if it is their first time. They like men who handle them gently. Start from her lips and then head down south – that’s how she likes it. In doing so, you would make her feel special. Women like it slow and long; the sex that is!
2. Refusing To Use Condoms
If a woman insists that you wear a condom, the rudest, most inconsiderate thing you can do is try and talk her out of it. It doesn’t matter if you “just got tested,” or if she’s on the pill. Women face way higher stakes in the bedroom. It is a medical fact that we are more physiologically susceptible to STDs than men, not to mention the risk of pregnancy. Sure, sex feels better without a condom, life is better without STDs and unplanned pregnancies. And don’t try to split the difference and get it in raw just for the beginning.
3. Skipping Foreplay
Don’t skip foreplay. You know because you need to heat the oven before you bake your goods, mate! So start with gentle foreplay. Kiss, nibble, suck and graze. Do what you feel will get her all hot and happening. As shy as they may seem, women love being given head. So initiate some good foreplay and she’s all yours. Taking a direct plunge is only good when you are both mighty drunk or want a quickie.
4. Drowning Her In The Shower
If there’s water involved, be sure you’re not choking your partner under the faucet. When you hear “gurggle gurggle” noises, chances are she’s drowning under the spray. Sexual activity in the shower is fun — until someone gets hurt.
5. Going For Anal Without Asking
What we mean is, seek permission from your woman before you initiate anal sex. While the concept of anal sex might be fascinating for you, it may not be a joy ride for her. It’s painful and there are a lot of things to keep in mind before she takes it in the butt. You definitely can’t explore that area without enough lube. So to do that, she needs to know you want to head in that direction and she needs to be mentally and physically prepared. Don’t just slip it in when she’s bent down for you in doggy style.
6. Not Listening to Her
Listen to her when you’re inside her! If she wants you to go at a particular motion or speed, respect that. It will make your job much easier, trust us. Don’t be in a hurry to nut. You don’t want to end the show without a proper ending, do you? So when she says things like ‘harder’, ‘do it just like that’ or ‘take it slow’, be attentive and listen.
7. Starting The Dirty Talk Early
Sure, saying something in a moment of passion is totally fine but upping the ante when she didn’t see it coming might come off as more of a shock than sexy. While courting her, sheepishly tell her about the ‘fantasies you’ve read online’ – learn from her reactions, and then go ahead with ‘dirty sex’; or else, NO!
8. Stop Choke-Slamming Her Neck
Yeah, most men do that. When she’s going down on your junk, don’t direct her mouth by pushing her head down, holding her neck etc! That’s more than a bit annoying and not required. Women usually know which direction to ‘head’ to, so don’t direct them abruptly. If you gotta do it, be gentle, dude!
9. Escaping Cuddle Time
Sex to women is more about emotions than physical pleasure. A woman may feel used and exploited if her partner’s romance dies out with sex. Women love cuddling, a lot!
If you avoid a few of these things, then you’re definitely scoring a lot more than just sex! Don’t assume what women want and like, just spend time in understanding their body and their mind a bit.