Crushes, we all have them no matter what stage of life we are in. Most of the time the reasons for having crushes are as simple as, “She’s pretty” or “He’s so nice to me”. Your brain knows that the guy might be bad news or otherwise just not compatible for you, but your heart just doesn’t care.
Here are the things that are relatable to if you are really crushing on someone:
1. You start doing weird things with your hair
He’s so funny, so charming. Wait, why am I touching my hair? Oh my Gosh, it’s one of the signs. He’ll know that I fancy him! Stop it, Stop it. Ok just flip my hair behind my shoulders and I’ll stop playing with them.
2. Every little thing reminds you of them
Yep, the fact that you saw a billboard for a movie they like and were cut off in traffic by a car that looks a lot like theirs are totally signs you’re destined for each other.
3. You want your friends to adore them
Whenever your crush name is brought up, your ears perk up and you’re still interested in what people are saying about them.
4. You discover something new about them every day
You want to know everything about them: what their childhood was like, the scariest thing that ever happened to them, their most vulnerable moment, their favorite meal. You’re obsessed with the tiniest things about them, like the way they roll up their sleeves when they’re feeling relaxed or the focused look on their face when they’re washing dishes.
5. You see him as yours even if its illogical
How do you feel when this guy is around other girls? Are you happy for him when he makes dates with other girls, or do you feel a twinge in your gut like you don’t think he should be dating them? You might know that you have no claim over this guy or anything he does, and you’re totally aware that he has no obligation to be loyal to you, but you have this weird feeling of possession over him. More importantly, you know you’re being crazy to think this way, but it doesn’t actually stop you from feeling that way.
6. You try your best to bump into him
When you finally give up on leaving fate to a higher power, you’ll start planning “coincidental” meetings. Trying to attend class the same timing, going to the toilet the same timing, etc. and when you actually meet them without planning a “coincidental” meeting you’ll go slightly cray cray.
7. You make lots of excuses to talk to him
Oh,I forgot my book can I borrow yours? Oh, I’m going to my friends house today, shall I walk with you? You’ll learn to become the king of making lousy excuses just so you can talk to them.
8. You’ll start wondering alot about what would have happened
I wonder what will happen if I asked him about the prom, will he offer to go with me? Your spare time will be spent thinking about what will happen if you did this or said that. Will your time spent together be longer or will your conversations be still as short?
9. You start seeing them in your future
You don’t have to be married to him or even dating him in this future you’re thinking about, but you might see him in your future as a person that means a lot to you.
At the end of the day, the result of having a crush on someone is unpredictable. You cannot always expect things to go according to plan. You have to be emotionally ready when you learn your crush does not reciprocate the same feelings you have for them. When that time comes, you have to know that it’s alright and it’s not the end of the world. It may feel like that but it’s not. You will move on, be stronger and be even more prepared for the next one. Just keep in mind that you are going to be okay.