You may hear women complain about their relationships or sex life, but what are you actually doing to change that? It’s a hard question to answer. You may want to, but you’re not sure how to get around doing it. Your reply may be, “Well, how am I supposed to know if she’s not enjoying it? She doesn’t tell me she isn’t. She looks like she’s enjoying herself.” I think the problem is many people assume that what pleases their partner in bed involves doing the splits and rearranging organs—that’s not the case. Sex is about connection, not intensely terrifying positions. It’s not as hard as you think.
1. Teach yourself about sex in general
Listen, the only way to truly figuring out how to please a woman in bed is if you genuinely understand how the female body works. That way, you know where and what the clitoris is and does, you know the sensitivity of the nipples, and the erogenous zones. The more you know about sex, sex health, and communication, the better it is for you.
2. Foreplay is a must
I know guys get excited and want to go right into penetration but you need to slow it down. Men and women are different in this part as it takes longer for women to become aroused than it does for men. This is a huge problem as many men assume that women get turned on exactly like them. If you want to turn her on, focus on the foreplay.
3. Focus on her needs also
It takes two. A common complaint in the female community is how their partners have sex with them like a rabbit. It’s quick, fast, and the guy is the only one who cums. If you want to learn how to please a woman in bed, genuinely care about the experience she’s having. Sex isn’t just about you and getting you off, she’s also in the picture as well. Focus on her, trust me, it pays off.
4. Try something new
Don’t stick to one position. Sometimes, we become so comfortable in a couple of positions, they become routine. Now, this isn’t a bad thing, but sometimes it’s good to spice things up with a new position every now and then. Too much of the same thing leads to boredom, and you don’t want that. So, if you’re always in missionary, it’s time to flip her on her stomach.
5. Communicate with her
Make sure to communicate. Sex is a tango between two people. If you want the dance to be smooth you need to communicate. Of course, you don’t need full-length conversations, but check-in with your partner and see if it feels good or if they like what you’re doing. This allows her to tell you or move your hand into the right position.
6. Release each other’s fantasies
Your brain is one of the most active organs during sex. So, feed your brain and indulge in your fantasies. Whether you act them out or they go on in your head, sex is about freedom, so let your thoughts go wild.
7. Make her feel sexy
Don’t body shame. Women are very sensitive about their bodies. There’s a lot of pressure on them to look a certain way. Let me tell ya, it’s hard to achieve it. This affects the way they have sex as they may refrain from certain positions because of their breasts, thighs, or stomach. Though you’re not responsible for her insecurities, help make her feel comfortable. Tell her what you love about her body. When she feels vulnerable, use that moment to compliment her.
8. Give her an orgasm before you have sex with her
Trust me, most guys don’t do this. They just rush to the finish line. So make it a rule to make her cum before sex. Feel free to do it however you like, use your fingers, use your tongue, you can even use a toy. Just make sure she cums at least once before you start having sex with her.
9. Create sexual anticipation
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