Flirting is a tricky thing to get right. You want to do something that your guy will actually notice, but you don’t want to take it extremes. Everybody flirts differently so sadly there are no easy rules about how to successfully get his attention in a positive way. You may be the most intelligent and witty girl he’ll ever fall for. He’ll even feel lucky to snag a date with you, but you’ll never know if you do the most to catch his attention.
Just relax and avoid these few things you should never do to impress a guy.
1. Ditch your family and friends for him.
There is no hard and fast rule that your guy must get along with your family and friends. While it would be picture perfect if everyone likes each other and are BFF, real life isn’t always so easy. However, if you find yourself constantly having to choose between your inner circle and your boyfriend, or he says negative and hurtful things about them, he might be trying to pull you away. Just remember that a man who truly cares for you would never want you to ditch the people who love you, and you love, the most.
2. Dumb yourself down.
You should never act stupid because you think it will make him like you. If he can’t connect with you on an intellectual level then he isn’t the one for you. You need more than a physical connection and you shouldn’t dumb yourself down to try to connect with him.
3. Act interested in things you hate.
Don’t pretend to like things just because he likes them. You don’t have to listen to the same music or know all the players on his favorite basketball team. You’re allowed to be different and have your own interests and you’re allowed to like different things.
4. Have sex too soon.
There isn’t a one size fits all rule for when new couples should have sex for the first time. However, sleeping with a guy simply to impress him is a huge mistake, simply because it never works. Sex isn’t all that impressive if you think about it, if he’s not getting it from you, he’ll get it somewhere else, so it’s not enough to keep a guy interested in you when the deed is done. If you have to resort to shagging it up to get a guy to like you in the first place, he’s probably not that invested, and you’re only hurting yourself in the long run. Sex shouldn’t be the first level you connect on.
5. Make a huge life decision.
Don’t do something crazy like quit your job to move for him or make big financial decisions for him until you’re in a serious committed relationship. Sometimes people say things they don’t mean and you don’t want to get stuck and screwed over because he wasn’t being serious or you just assumed.
6. Don’t change your principles and morals
Do not, under any circumstances, compromise on your principles and morals. You do not need to agree with anything a guy says in order to get his attention. You might be able to put up with the charade for a while, but abandoning your morals for another human being will eat your soul slowly from the inside out. So, stay true to yourself and do not compromise on the beliefs that you hold dear.
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7. Starve yourself
You do not need to go out of your comfort zone in order to look thinner for guys. If anything, you will be reinforcing the unreal beauty standards set by the media. So, do not starve yourself in order to fit in that extra tight dress that makes it hard for you to breathe like a human being.
8. Sending nude pictures
Never send pictures of your naked body to get his attention. If this is what he is asking then avoid him because that guy is only interested in one thing which is to sleep with you. A decent guy, genuinely interested in you would never put you in that situation. In addition to degrading, it could be very dangerous. This is amongst the top point of what you should not do to impress a guy.
As a womanof this century, career should be one of your top priorities. Of course we all need someone to hold our hand and stand by us in times of difficulty but that does not mean you should compromise on your career goals in order to chase a guy or to get his attention. Instead, once you are in a stable position –career wise- you will see how easy it gets to gain a man’s attention. And here, we do mean a real man who is not intimidated by someone who has her priorities straight.
10. Dress skimpier
There is nothing wrong with showing a little leg here or really toned arms there. However, dressing like you are at the beach or a lingerie model everywhere you go is a problem. It will not get you the respect that you deserve as a lady, nor will it make you any more desirable to men as a potential girlfriend or wife. Skimpy attire will make you look easily accessible. No man really wants a woman who is easily accessible.
11. Lose yourself in him
It is super easy to become so entangled in getting a guy to like you that you start taking on some of his hobbies. That is ok. However, it is not ok to change who you are completely to match his vision of an ideal girlfriend. You have to be your own person. If he is going to like you, it has to be for the right reasons. What good is it if he likes you for reasons that are artificial? When it comes to love, you’ve got to be yourself. Any guy that loves you is going to love you for the person that you are.