Relationships

So if these habits ruin a relationship, what habits create a healthy relationship?

Often individuals fiddle and ponder about the most ideal approaches to keep their relationship from falling apart. They ask their loved ones, who further direction them into going up against their partner about what is irritating them, and criticizing them for being over-friendly with the opposite sex.
But the question is, is this the right way of saving your relationship? We think that a few couples know the correct method for managing circumstances, however fall in the trap of considering them to be harmful for their relationship. Give us a chance to discover how some relationship habitsthat are a long way from being terrible for the couple, and bring them closer.

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Letting some conflicts go unresolved

The idea that couples must communicate and resolve all of their problems is a myth. Successful couples accept and understand that some conflict is inevitable, that there will always be certain things they don’t like about their partners or things they don’t agree with, and that this is fine. You shouldn’t need to feel the need to change somebody in order to love them. And you shouldn’t let some disagreements get in the way of what is otherwise a happy and healthy relationship. Certain habits of your partner might affect you negatively, but learn to accept it. You should not just go about with one sole purpose of changing them so that they become more lovable in your eyes. Sometimes, it is okay to let go and not hold on to irrelevant arguments. Learn to make peace with it.

The truth is, trying to resolve a conflict can sometimes create more problems than it fixes. Some battles are simply not worth fighting. And sometimes the most optimal relationship strategy is one of “live and let live.”

Accepting each other’s flaws

It’s important to make something more important in your relationship than merely making each other feel good all of the time. The feel good stuff happens when you get the other stuff right. The sunsets and puppies, they happen when you get the more important stuff right: values, needs and trust.

Initially, when we are head-over-heels for someone, we only look at the bright side and present our best selves to them to increase our likability quotient. However, when you start living under the same roof, you come to know a great deal more. If you accept them for all their awkwardness and habits, we think that is the true sign of being in love with an imperfect person, who is perfect for you!

After all, it is the imperfections and its acceptance that decides if you are going to be together forever.

 

Being willing to end it

Romantic sacrifice is admired in our way of life. Show me any sentimental film and I’ll demonstrate to you a urgent and poor character who treats themselves like dog – for being in love with somebody.

The truth is our standards for what a “successful relationship” should be are pretty screwed up. In the event that a relationship ends and somebody’s not dead, then we see it as a disappointment, paying little heed to the enthusiastic or commonsense circumstances present in the individual’s lives. Also, that is somewhat crazy.

“Until death do us part” is sentimental and everything, except when we love our relationship as something more essential than ourselves, our qualities, our requirements and everything else in our lives, we make a wiped out element where there’s no responsibility.

We have no motivation to work on ourselves and develop in light of the fact that our partner must be there regardless. Furthermore, our partner has no motivation to work on themselves and we’re going to be there no matter what. It invites stagnation and stagnation equals misery.

Getting attracted to other people in your life

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We all meet new people all through our lives. Some become special while some leave your life as if they never existed. Of the two, the special ones might remain special because you are attracted to them. This is not to say that your motive is to betray your partner. Some healthy flirting with other people is always good for a relationship. But, only if you know where to draw the line. You cannot cross the fence thinking your partner may not know. If you are going to cross the fence, ask yourself one question: ‘Is it worth sabotaging your current relationship?’ You will get your answer.

Giving each other space and spending time away from each other

You see it all the time: the man who meets his girlfriend and stops playing basketball and hanging out with his friends, or the woman who suddenly decides she loves every comic book and video game her boyfriend likes even though she doesn’t know how to hold the XBox controller properly. We all have that friend who mysteriously ceased to exist as soon as they got into their relationship. And it’s troubling, not just for us but for them.

A lot of us are consumed by our romantic passions so much that we stop doing things we once loved. However, don’t you think you are leaving behind your individuality and becoming someone who is unrecognizable to your partner? Well, you may do this unknowingly or knowingly, but make sure you take time off from each other and do somethings that you both love in your own time. Spend some time with your friends, join a recreational club and pursue your hobbies; whether it is pottery, writing, learning to play a guitar or dancing.

Feeling attraction for people outside the relationship

We all meet new people all through our lives. Some become special while some leave your life as if they never existed. Of the two, the special ones might remain special because you are attracted to them. This is not to say that your motive is to betray your partner. Some healthy flirting with other people is always good for a relationship. But, only if you know where to draw the line. You cannot cross the fence thinking your partner may not know. If you are going to cross the fence, ask yourself one question: ‘Is it worth sabotaging your current relationship?’ You will get your answer.

Looking at attractive people is enjoyable. Speaking to attractive people is enjoyable. Thinking about attractive people is enjoyable. That’s not going to change because of our Facebook relationship status. And when you dampen these impulses towards other people, you dampen them towards your partner as well. You’re killing a part of yourself and it ultimately only comes back to harm your relationship.

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