What happens when your Mind and Heart are not Agreed on the Same thing
You are sitting with your cell phone staring at a text message you wrote to your ex hours ago. You debate whether to send it or not. You stare at your phone while your mind tells you to have more respect for yourself. You logically understand that sending the message is not going to make the situation any better – nor will it heal your pain. Then your heart enters the scene and overpowers your mind. Your heart says, “Go ahead, send it, you will feel better…temporarily at least.”
The scenario above represents an example of a misalignment between your heart and your mind that is a common occurrence after a break up. Every decision you make is established by a blend of your logic and emotion. In the event these different elements that make you who you are happen to issue, you will understandably feel conflicted and make decisions that reflect this chaos.
The concept of position will help you realise why you may have recently been in a relationship that was not good enough for you. It will also help you realize how to use your reason to help heal your broken heart. Let’s look at extra examples of what happens when your heart and mind differ with each other.
Scenario 1 – During the Relationship
Your mind says, “I deserve more – this relationship is not right.”
Your heart says, “Stay, it will work out.”
If you were in a relationship where it was obvious that you were not receiving the love, respect, and engagement that you deserve, then your mind was probably nudging you during the relationship and asking you, “Why are we still here?” You remained in that relationship for longer than you should have because your heart believed that your mate and relationship could change.
Your heart believed that it was better to be in a relationship that was mediocre than to be alone. Your heart was saying to you, “Hey, give it a chance, it’s not that bad.” Your mind and heart were not aligned and this probably led to fighting, to an internal struggle, and eventually the break up. Often when we want more from a relationship than we are getting, we continually try to get ‘more’ by attempting to change the person we are with or by forcing other changes in the relationship. This is generally a destructive path.
Scenario 2 – During the Relationship Read more on next page
