Everybody likes a little romance. This is great for a relationship, bringing you closer to each other, and it opens opportunities for you and your partner to get to know each other better too. Being more romantic isn’t hard either and good results can come from adding in just a few basic moves. You may not realize this, but sexual intimacy is just like romance. It’s always heart pumping at the beginning, until it runs out of steam and turns predictable and less-than-adrenalin-inducing over time. And just like you’d rely on gestures and surprises in romance, you need to keep the excitement alive in bed too, by using some foreplay tricks. When you’re making love for the first time, as you place your lips on your lover’s body, the sexual tension feels electric. And all you’d need to do is slip your hands into your partner’s shorts to see that they’re all ready and raring to go. Foreplay is really about courting and wooing your partner’s sensual responses and sexual arousal.
Here are 12 of the hottest turn-ons that any couple should try at least once — if not twice or three timea. Try any one of the foreplay tip and you’re guaranteed to have the wildest, hottest, toe-curling sex you and your man could ever imagine.
1. Blindfold Each Other
Heightened sensitivity of physical sensation adds excitement and electricity when you have to anticipate and imagine a touch you cannot see. Nothing will matter but what you feel. If your partner’s usually the dominant one in bed, blindfold them first. It’s an enticing way to tip the balance. Undress your lover as part of the build-up to a slow burning climax. Props like feathers, rose petals or oils can be introduced to stroke the skin. Keep in mind that this is about building passion through the sensation of touch and love in a safe environment and not about creating fear. As always, make sure you’ve set the rules of the game with your partner before plunging into the dark.
2. Kiss Each Other Passionately
Those quick sparrow pecks of goodbye kisses may work while saying goodbye and rushing to office in the mornings. But in bed, that’s one of the biggest sexual turn offs. Take your time. Even if you’ve kissed your lover a million times, a slow and sensual kiss can still feel just as intimate and sexy as a first kiss. Close your eyes, place your lips on your lover’s lips and play along, while moving your lips softly, slowly and purposefully. Breathe into each other slowly, and just experience the sensation. After all, there is nothing that feels as sexy as a perfect kiss with a lover who knows to kiss you just the way you want to be kissed.
3. Take a Hot Shower Together
Unwind after a long day with a steamy soak with your SO. Washing away any stress and tension will allow you to enjoy each other even more and start your evening off on a relaxing note. Add candles around the tub for a little romance or opt for a makeout session in the shower before making your way to the bedroom.
4. Take Turns Giving Massages
Some warm body oil, dim lights and your bare hands! Yes, creating magic is just that easy. And you don’t need to be a professional masseuse, just make sure you don’t get over-ambitious and apply too much pressure in the wrong places.
5. Show Some Skin
Couples don’t spend much time naked together. We shower and dress, or pull off our clothes and get into pajamas. What about hanging around nude one afternoon? Or having Sunday breakfast sans clothing? Being naked allows you too feel more comfortable with your body — no matter your size — and give you confidence. It’s a sexy way to establish an intimacy and trust with each other. If you have kids, put a lock on your bedroom door and spend time together without clothing.
6. Exchange Erotic Letters
Express your love and desire through words. Add romantic touches using wax seals or pressed petals. Describe in bold, intimate detail how you imagine the two of you will make love and the feelings that it will evoke. Create a secret world between the two of you. Take turns exchanging letters to suggest a tryst, which could vary from the bedroom to the bathroom or even under the stars.
7. Dirty Talk
This is one of the sexiest things in you do in bed. And the best part about dirty talking in bed is that it can help you talk about your darkest sexual fantasies without the fear of being judged by your lover. It’ll bring both of you closer, make both of you feel more intimate, and it’ll open a new door of sexual bliss that’ll make sex feel as exciting as the first time, all the time.
8. Tell Your Partner How Sexy He or She Is
If dirty talk is something you’re not comfortable with, that’s OK. You don’t have to talk about your partner’s hard/wet body parts. Instead, just tell him or her how sexy he or she is and how much what they’re doing turns you on. Sex is a vulnerable position to be in. You’re both naked and want to feel good about yourselves while making each other feel good. Validating your partner’s sexual prowess is a good way to stay connected and keep both of you in the moment.
9. Add in Some Friendly Spanking
Spanking is dipping your toes into kink without taking the full plunge. Make sure your partner is into spanking before you go buckwild. Some people enjoy it while others do not, and surprising someone during sex can get weird…If you know he or she likes spanking, go for it. It sends shockwaves through the whole sexual encounter. Start light and build up to more aggressive strokes.
10. Use a Mirror
It’s surprising just how many people find mirrors exciting and fun. Prop a long mirror horizontally on the bed, right next to the both of you. Get naked and play with each other’s bodies while watching each other in the mirror. Just watching your partner getting stroked and teased in the mirror is a huge turn on that’s definitely worth experiencing. And having sex while watching yourselves in the mirror? Well, that just gets even better!
11. Make a Super Sexy Fantasy Come True
Take mental notes whenever you partner mentions a fantasy he or she has. Does he want to play the handy man who arrives to fix your pipes? Is she a police officer here to investigate a noise complaint? You don’t have to hit up a costume store and buy a full outfit if you don’t want to. You can easily make a costume from things lying around your house. Half of fantasy is the imagination. This role play surprise will not only turn your partner on, but will make him or her feel appreciated since you really listened.
12. Tell Your Partner “No”
If things have gotten stale, you can trick your significant other’s mind into craving you by pretending that sex is off limits. Tell your partner that you are not going to let them have sex with you until a certain day and time. Then tease them. Lift your shirt or hike your skirt. Shake your booty. Pout your lips. Show them what they aren’t getting. Build up the tension by denying them of what they want most.
Whether you’re looking to spice things up or kick your already-intense sex life up a notch, focus on foreplay the next time you and your partner get into things.