It is obvious that for a relationship to be exciting, fun and happy, both partners need to always add new things into it. There are several ways to assist a relationship grow closer, but nothing beats up communication between man and a women and more so a new relationship. Now, we all know how good most women are with words and how challenged men are in comparison. While there do exist some good conversationalists amongst men, a lot of them still need a lot of tutoring.
Talking to women can be intimidating for most guys but women love men who are fun and easy to talk to. It is important to stay confident throughout the conversation to show the girl that you believe in what you saying and that you are happy to be with.
1. Start with a light topic.
When you first start talking to the girl, pick a light topic that you can both chat about pretty casually that won’t make things awkward. Don’t tell her about the weird rash on your back or ask her about her most embarrassing moment; you can save that stuff for when you get to know each other better. Stick to the topics that can still lead to an interesting conversation without making the girl feel uncomfortable. For most women, opening up about their life is a very fragile moment so asking the wrong questions or too many questions can make her feel like she’s being interrogated. Try asking her to a friendly game such as darts where you can both relax and get to know each other a little more.
2. Start things off to invite her to talk.
Pay attention to the scenario, and mold your invitation to the circumstances. If you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know, try making a recommendation. For example, if you see a beautiful girl at a coffee shop, and she looks undecided about her order, then recommend your favorite drink or tell her that you’re going to guess exactly what she wants just by looking at her. When you already know the girl, start with some common ground. If you’re in school together, then make a comment about classes or talk about your extra curricular activities.
3. Talk about her friends, her interests and her family.
It is important to ask her about her family, friends and their lives, ensure you have long conversations about her interests also and those things she likes to do most when she’s got enough time on her hands. Talking with her about her interests will assist her see that you’re authentically interested in knowing all about her and her life in general. Also, if the two of you do share particular hobbies, then the two of you will be in a position to bond even better with each other.
4. Focus on her, not you.
Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested. If you are focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she does not have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself. Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!
5. Ask her some questions.
You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. A great question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at the same time. Avoid “yes” and “no” questions. A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. Girls often like guys to make the first move. Instead of waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first.
6. Discus about both your childhood and your past.
Childhood memories are such memories that are full of fun to either talk about or listen to, particularly if it involves a funny or an embarrassing incident. Discus with her about your first crush, , the first time you got drunk, your good looking teacher or even the time you did something silly. It is at this point whereby your girlfriend will definitely take pleasure in and have a good laugh while spending time with you.
7. Keep smiling.
Maintaining a smile and a positive demeanor will keep the girl’s interest and will make her more likely to keep talking to you. Though you don’t have to grin until your cheeks are numb, you should smile whenever it’s appropriate. This will let the girl see that you really like talking to her and will leave her with a positive feeling. You may be so nervous that you forget to smile, so remember to keep yourself in check. Smiling is especially important when you first start talking to the girl and at the end of the conversation.
8. Focus on body language.
For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as though you’re focused on her. Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you while you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you. Make sure you’re projecting good body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.
9. End on a good note if she tells you that she has to leave.
Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her and getting to know her. If you felt a real connection to her, ask for her phone number. The next morning, send her a text saying that you had a great time, and wish her a good day. You might get a second chance at continuing that initial conversation if she texts you back. A good rule of thumb is to wait a least a day before you call her, especially if you approached her as a stranger. You don’t want her to think you’re too forward, and you don’t want to appear too needy, so it is best to delay for a day.When you call her, keep things short and sweet. Unless she’s really enjoying the conversation, simply ask her if she’d want to see a movie or go out for coffee and leave it at that.
Some of the things that may make a woman uncomfortable are if you are nervous, putting yourself down or making comments about how you can’t find anything to talk about. This is likely to make her lose interest in you and she may never want to talk to you again. You don’t need to act like you are the most interesting guy in the world. Just act like you are confident and happy with being you and around her and the rest will follow into place.