I used to think that falling in love with your best friend was only something that happened on TV shows or in the movies. Does it really happen in real life? Do people really just wake up one day and realize that the person who has never given them boners is actually their soulmate? Yes. Yes they do. If you’re one of those guys who’s begun having feelings for your female best friend, these instructions might help. Dealing with it can be very tough, especially if you find she doesn’t feel the same way about you.
1. Digest your feelings.
Before you do anything else, take a moment to really think about how you truly feel. Are you just being emotional? Are you jumping to conclusions based on something ridiculous? Sit back for a week or so and just let your feelings develop and become clearer to ensure that this is really something you want to act upon.
2. Determine if she has feelings for you.
Now’s the time to do some investigating and decoding of their body language. Find out if she like you, too. Chances are, there’s some kind of chemistry between you two if you like her and she’s your best friend. If she’s getting flirty, looking extra good around you, and even initiating more hangouts, she could be feeling the same way. Take your time determining this, though, and don’t jump to conclusions either way.
3. Pick the right time to talk about it.
This is a really heavy topic. You can’t expect her to sit and listen to it at a party or when she’s really busy. The best time for this is just when the two of you are alone, spending time together like normal. During a movie night, a walk, or even at dinner sometime are the best times to do this. Make sure she’s in a good mood and is willing to listen to you fully.
4. Compliment her.
If you find her attractive, then you’d definitely have no problems coming up with lines to compliment her. Don’t overdo it, but every now and then, say something sweet and memorable, so you send out the right signals to let your friend know that you find her attractive.
5. Support her.
Be the friend in need. Spend more time with her and let her see just how great a person you are. Be a helping hand when you have the time, but don’t be a pushover and be available at your friend’s beck and call all the time. By helping her out with little errands or shopping trips, you can let her see you as someone who’s an important part of her decisions and her life.
6. Tell her how you feel.
This is often easier for a guy than a girl because most girls are pretty considerate of feelings. Give her a chance to understand you and when you think the time is right, tell her what you think. Of course, you may risk ruining and/or losing your friendship, or at least changing it even if you don´t want to. But if it turns out lucky, then she will be even more considerate of you and your feelings.
7. Open your heart and your ears.
This my love, is the most important. Not everything is going to go your way in life, and this *may* be one of those times. You have to have an open and calm mind when you tell her that you’re in love with her. You should always be prepared for the worst… but also the best. Don’t forget to hear her out if she has anything to say about it.
8. Realize that it doesn’t mean the friendship is over.
Realize that just because you’re falling in love with your best friend, the friendship doesn’t have to be over. If anything, it just solidifies your relationship even more.