Many people are addicted to loving too much and smothering a partner without even realizing it. And while they do this, they ignore all the warning signs, and are completely taken off guard when their partner leaves them. You need to remember that as exciting as being in love is, you have to watch your step. Although there is nothing wrong with showering your partner with love, there is a fine line between being attentive and smothering.
Do not be blinded by love and learn to pay attention to the signals. When you constantly cross the line of your partner’s tolerance and annoyance, your partner will probably display telltale signs that enough is enough, and that they need you to back away.
1. Leads to boredom
When you love someone too much and spend most of your time with them, the mystery and intrigue of your relationship dies. Over familiarity seeps in and soon you find you both do not have much to discuss about. The conversations will seem stretched and get dull. When you meet less frequently, you will realize you have a lot of things to discuss. Distance not only makes the heart grow fonder but it allows for some breathing space between two people.
2. No one wants to lose their freedom
Wing clipping is the act of trimming a bird’s flight feathers so that it is no longer able to fly. Do not do this to the person you love. When you clip their wings, you are forcing them to be tethered to you. By smothering them with too much affection, you are taking away their freedom. This means that they are unable to make decisions without having you burning holes into the back of their head. Do not place the person you love in a gilded cage because no matter how wonderful it is, it is an inescapable prison that no person should have to live in.
3. Suffocate the comfort zone
Everybody has a comfort zone in which they like to stay for a while. If you ask your partner to spend all their time with you, they might start feeling suffocated after a while because then, they will have to step out of their comfort zone and adjust to your surroundings. They have to adjust your surroundings. There is no escaping that. But, only when they are with you. They also so need to spend some time with their friends and relatives and be in a space they are familiar with.
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4. Losing their individuality
You must respect your partner as an individual. They have their own identity and you must acknowledge that. If you ask them to devote all their time and energy towards the relationship, they will have no time for themselves. You do not wish your partner to lose their individuality but your overbearing nature will force them to do the same.
5. It displays desperation
When you smother a new love, you will undoubtedly come off as being needy and desperate, even if you are not. Always remember that no one wants to be in a relationship with someone who cannot stand on their own two feet. You have to take it upon yourself to be independent and prove to not just your new love, but to yourself that you can cope with the responsibility of being in an adult relationship.
6. Leads towards fights
You have the right to voice your opinion to your partner but you have surely do not have the authority to force it on them. What seems right to you may not seem correct to them. You must respect their opinion and let them be. Do not think of your opinion as the final word. You may be right but imposing your thoughts on them will lead to quarrels and fights between the two of you.
7. Stunt the relationship’s growth
Smothering someone will stunt, not just the relationship’s growth, but your partner’s growth as well. This is true when it comes to dating someone new, especially if both of you are young. You must give yourself and your partner the chance to be two separate individuals. You have to also give the other person sufficient time and space to accept you into their lives, no matter how much you love each other.