There are so many of us who often go through difficult phases and it is the support of the ones we love that helps us battle the tiring times. Life isn’t always easy and neither is love, but when you have the comfort of leaning on someone’s shoulder, it helps in battling through the darkest times with ease. It’s not necessarily a guy’s fault when he can’t comfort a girl the right way. The truth is that we’re just so different that what comforts a guy most likely makes the situation worse for the girl. We’re just different types of people!
If you can’t comfort a girl the right way, it can be hard to maintain a strong relationship with them. These tips help you understand how to comfort a girl correctly instead of comforting her the wrong way and making everything worse.
1. Talk to her
There is no better alternative than talking to your girlfriend. A girl will always appreciate the time you take to listen to her and be by her side. When you take out time to talk to someone, it is a beautiful gesture that shows how much you care for the person. Don’t just sit there pretending to listen to what she’s saying but then drift off into your own world. You have to hear her situation out and try to understand what she’s going through.
2. Understand the issues
You need to be understanding when she does open up to you. This is a very crucial aspect of your relationship. Sit down with her and try to understand her point of view. Maybe, she isn’t right, but you do not need to tell her that when she is feeling vulnerable. Try to think about possible solutions to her problems together and then you are a lot more likely to get along and help her feel happy again.
3. Don’t judge
The last thing she wants from you is to feel like you are judging her. You need to know that by judging her, you are robbing her of her self-confidence. You should hear her side of the story, and even if you feel that she is at fault, you need to patiently wait for her mood to cool down. While you shouldn’t lead someone down the wrong path, you shouldn’t judge someone when they’re already feeling down. She seeks comfort and a shoulder to lean on. Let her pour her heart out and believe in her. With time, she will be able to see the wrong choices she made and you will be able to explain to her how to fix things.
4. Take her out on a date
There are few things as endearing as a date. When you are looking to comfort your girlfriend and you want her to feel warm and fuzzy all over again, try taking her out for a fun and romantic night. Don’t even bring the topic up for the day and simply charm her with your romantic mood. Trust romance to be the savior, and by the time the day ends, you will find her smiling and opening her heart to you – love can be the solution!
5. Show her positivity
As a boyfriend, consider it your responsibility to show her light during times of darkness. Make her feel the zing of positivity, hope, and faith and let those be the pillars of strength that she needs. Talk to her about your own struggles and how you made it out of the mess. Let her know that some bad days don’t account for a bad life and we are stronger than our fears. Be her pillar of strength and paint the beautiful smile on your favorite face all over again. Tell her she’s been through worse, and she can get through it no matter what and that you believe she can.
6. Recollect good memories
The next thing you can do is to recollect all the good memories you both share. When your girlfriend is angry or upset, she might feel like it is the end of the world and there is nothing to soothe her. In such cases, the remembrance of your past is everything you need to cheer her up. You must have a lot of amazing pictures, or some heartfelt memories or moments that are close to your heart. Talk about all the good times you have shared and watch how she turns from melodramatic to cheerful.
7. Make sure to take her side
Every girlfriend wants someone who will support her through thick and thin. Life can often bring us down with its incessant struggles and problems. In such cases, it is upon you to be her support system. When you can be there for her when she sees absolutely nothing to hold on to, your relationship will grow even stronger. As a boyfriend, you don’t need to buy hugely expensive gifts for her. Sometimes, all she needs from you is that heart-to-heart talk in the middle of the night asking her if she is okay and refusing to hang up until she agrees to smile.
8. Pamper her
You need to pamper her because pampering has a way of making girls feel beautiful. Take her to her favorite restaurant or treat her to her favorite ice cream. Simply sit down with her and watch the twinkling stars or give her a foot massage. You don’t always need to do fancy things because all she really needs from you is a little bit of pampering and she will be really glad to have found a gem of a boyfriend.
9. Give her a hug
Hugs make everything better for girls—unless you’re the problem, of course. Otherwise, give her a hug and just sit in the hug for a moment or so. The physical contact makes her feel better and relieves some of that stress.
10. Physical comfort
Of course, this one wins hands down. The human body aches for physical touch and it has the power to soothe a soul. So, comfort her physically. Kiss her, hug her, cuddle her, and make love to her. Let your actions speak louder than words and show her that no matter how hard this journey may get, you will stick by her and do what is desired of you. Sometimes, it is this expression of love which ends up being the finest way of showing that you care and you always will.
11. Let her know you’re always there for her
Girls like to know that they’re not alone in their problems. If you really want to comfort her, make sure she knows she can go to you for any problems in her life, big or small. Knowing she has someone that cares enough to be there is such a comforting feeling for girls.
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