Relationships are beautiful things that fill you with happiness… for the first honeymoon period. Sometimes, the coming together of two people is blessed and meant to be, but a lot of times, things just dissolve into petty issues and fights for superiority. After going through your fair share of girlfriends/boyfriends, you have to start asking yourself certain questions to narrow the field.
If you don’t want to go through another pointless relationship, then ask yourself these questions before you get into one.
1. Do I really like this person?
Sometimes, you’ll have an amazing time with somebody, then wake up the next day feeling like you don’t know them at all, which is never a good feeling. So try to avoid this.
2. Do I actually want to be in a relationship?
Unfortunately, some of us get into relationships without even knowing we are doing so. We meet someone new, have a great time with them, and then suddenly we’re dating that person exclusively. If you don’t want to be in a committed relationship with someone, don’t let the good times take over your decisions. It won’t be so fun after a month or so.
3. Do I feel lonely and like him only for the attention he gives me?
Many a times, we just miss the company of someone we can make plans and spend the weekend with, watch with movies and have some fun, you know – and anyone who promises us just that, we mistake it for love. Girls – if you’re looking for companionship and not a companion – don’t get into a relationship just yet. All you need is a friend, not a boyfriend.
4. Do I just miss being in a relationship?
When you’re single, every couple on the street will remind you of your own romantic and intimate moments of past relationships. But never should you let these memories fool you into getting into a relationship only for the sake of re-living them with someone else. Instead, wait for someone with whom you can create memories that last a lifetime.
5. Is this going to be a serious or fun relationship?
Every relationship doesn’t have to be intense and complex. Just make sure you know how you want things to be so it’s doesn’t get complicated later.
6. What do I want from my next partner?
Think about what past relationships have provided you in the past. Love? Support? Companionship? If you’re looking for a relationship for other reasons, say financial support or being with someone for the sake of not being alone, drop those demands and realize that a relationship is about making each other stronger, not convenience.
7. Does he make me a better person?
When we spend a lot of our time with someone, we often unknowingly copy their habits, think their thoughts and become day by day like them. If you have trouble accepting his flaws and would never want to turn into the person he is – maybe you should just stay friends with him for the moment, a relationship may not be the best idea.
8. Am I emotionally available for a relationship?
If you’re still hung up on your ex or a past relationship, then it’s best to take it easy and see where things go rather than jump into it head first.
9. Am I really myself around him?
A lot of times, when we want someone to really like us, we don our best-dressed, most-funny selves around them. But if even after being with the person you like for quite some time you feel the need to hide your true hopes, fears, joys from him – and even your natural personality – then he is only in love with a side of you, and may or may not be able to accept your real self in the long run.