Why smart, gorgeous women are single?
They are so used to being the dominant one in business and coming across as women who “have it all together.” They have a hard time allowing themselves to be vulnerable and letting a man feel needed. Their facade is, “I don’t need you.”
While they may be great at asserting their needs and getting them met in the workplace, when it comes to relationships they have a hard time voicing what they want for fear of coming across as too masculine — or needy, which can seem worse. Their facade is, “Everything is great!” They present “perfect” on a date. They are interesting, intelligent, successful and strong. Men would love to bring this type of woman home to their mothers and show off to their bosses. She is constantly asked why she’s still single and receives offers to be set up with your brother, your nephew or your best friend. Yet, she is somehow forgettable, and he quickly loses interest.
Why? Because she is perfect. Perfect is boring. Perfect is not relatable. Perfect makes others feel like they have nothing to add, so they are not needed. Perfect lacks humanity.
But, why why WHY are these awesome and hot girls still in he world with no signs of being swooped up anytime soon? We can only speculate but our ideas are these, and they all center around the who this “hot” girl is.
1. She is assumed to be committed always.
‘Her? You’re seriously thinking of asking her out? Look at her!’ This is probably the first thing that pops into a man’s head when he spots a beautiful girl he can’t keep his eyes off of. Because we see that a person is attractive, we naturally assume that they might as well be in a committed relationship. People often don’t even bother simply because they know that they’ll be rejected. Maybe, yes. Yes, they might be rejected let’s not eliminate the possibility of an attractive girl actually being in a relationship and saying no or just simply saying no because she wants to. However, simply assuming that they’ll say no is wrong.
2. She’s grown out of “dating for the sake of dating.”
These girls are not into wasting their time or energy on a guy they really can’t see themselves being with long term. Casual dates just seem like a waste of time. It doesn’t mean she isn’t interested in dating, she’s just not interested in attending ONE more mediocre date.
3. She’s not into meaningless sex.
A “hot but single” girl has been there and done that with the A-holes who just want ass. She is not going to be down for this guy. To her, nothing is worse than being reminded of the losers from her past by a sub-par hookup and zero follow through on a guys part. Sex is better with someone she has feelings for, and she’s willing to wait for that.
4. She’s not looking to fill a void.
Is she really going to feel a huge glaring void in her life? The answer is no. A woman, hot or not, who has a complete life isn’t going to succumb to the throes of dating desperation to find the one thing she’s missing. She’s too pretty, busy and happy to force it with the next guy who comes along just to place a checkmark next to her romantic life.
5. She seems to have it all.
She has beauty, brains and a glowing personality to boot. Dating what could be a future wife can scare the living crap out of a guy. It forces the issue of whether he wants commitment anytime soon, or at all. So, unfortunately for this hot single girl, most of the guys she’s dating aren’t ready for this, so they feel forced to call it quits before it begins. They see the situation for what it is and bail wishing they could cross her path in fiveish years.
6. She knows exactly what she wants.
This hottie hot hot singleton has dated around enough to have learned from her past and identify specifically what she wants in her long term bae. She is looking for someone as independent, successful, and as happy as she is! Her list of non-negotiables is rock solid, and she knows better than to waste her time on a dude who doesn’t match what she wants. She refuses to settle for just anyone.
7. She is not the desperate type.
With men constantly offering pretty girls anything their little hearts desire these girls know they can be picky. They aren’t desperate to find a man to spend their time with and have the luxury of options on their side. They don’t mind staying single and waiting for the right one to come along.
8. Finding a man is not her priority.
Nice girls are usually more inclined to go out with a man even if the chemistry is lacking because they believe it takes time to fall in love. Pretty girls are not as excited about dating a man that doesn’t make them weak in the knees so they wait for Mr. Perfect while spending their time bettering themselves.