Every couple ties a wedlock with the high hopes and a belief of making their bond last forever. Needless to say, it requires a lot of dedication and hard work of both – the husband as well as the wife, to make the marriage work. Someone is attracted to you based on how you show up in your life and theirs. A relationship label is never an excuse to assume attraction either. Just because he is your husband or she is your girlfriend doesn’t mean he or she should desire you automatically and vice versa. If your partner doesn’t desire you as much as you want, you need to take a deeper look at the polarity in the relationship. Are you both showing up as attractive to each other?
Here are 14 ways to make your husband fall in love with you again and again:
1. Love yourself
Love who you are, love your body. Remove all the negative thoughts in your mind regarding your self image. When you start loving yourself, the positive vibrations it creates will automatically attract other people. If you find it difficult to remove the negative self image, try practices that help you get in touch with your inner being. For instance, practicing Yoga can be very useful. Meditation helps and so does affirmation based music.
2. Talk to him
Yes, it’s simple. But it’s amazing how many people don’t do this! I’m not saying it’s a guarantee that it’s going to fix all your problems, or he’s going to fall madly in love with you again, but you have to talk about it because it’s the first step. Ignoring the problem only makes it worse.
3. Help him de-stress
One of the main reasons why men lose touch with their romantic side is stress. Now there are various things you can do as a couple to help each other de-stress, but nothing can beat a ‘full body massage’. Once you have given him a massage, ask him to give you one. This can be a weekend activity that will take your relationship to the next level. If you have no idea how to give a massage, there are scores of videos on Youtube to help you get started.
4. Update your knowledge
Men like women who are well-read. They prefer women who know what is happening in the world. An intellectual wife, who can hold a discussion and have her view point on various topics, will keep her husband engaged in a healthy conversation. Read the news paper and novels for starters.
5. Work out to keep the husband interested in your body
We could talk all we want about personalities and emotions but being sexually attracted is a lot of about the body too. Besides the fact that being fit is a health asset, irrespective of how your sexual life is, it also helps you get the body that your husband can’t afford to ignore even if he tried. No matter how much his responsibilities and problems in life, if he takes a look at his wife and thinks, ‘Damn this woman is hot’, chances are he will still sexually want you.
6. Get in touch with your inner girl
After marriage most women get too serious, they lose touch with their inner child. Life is anything but serious, because in the end nothing matters. Why not enjoy life for all its worth instead of worrying about the next thing all the time? Get smiling and be as vivacious and cheerful as you can be. Your husband will find you very attractive when he sees what a chirpy personality you are.
7. Take interest in his interest
Be it sports, cars, bikes or movies, show interest in what your man likes. He will definitely appreciate the effort you are putting. It will make him feel close to you and this is a great way to spend some quality time together.
8. Be mysterious
Surprise him with a naughty encounter whenever you get a chance. Do something mischievous when he is in the bathroom, or in the kitchen or when he is engrossed in his phone. When the kids are asleep or are not around, wear a sexy dress that you have bought without his knowledge, arouse him with your acts. This will leave him asking for more.
9. Take a shower together
Get into a shower with him. Seek his help to undress you, and turn on the shower. Make the bath playful by rubbing his back, while he caresses you. You can make it more seductive by putting some aromatic room freshner or flowers in the bathroom.
10. Initiate love-making
Initiating sex can be hot AF, but, if we’re being totally honest, we usually leave it up to dudes to get the ball rolling. Flipping the script on your standard “are we going to get down or not?” routine can pay off big time. Not only will it make your guy feel more desired, when you both initiate sex you have more sex—and then everybody wins. But the biggest perk of playing the seducer (besides all of the sex) is the empowerment that comes with it.
11. Invest in some sexy lingerie
Now that you have the body it takes to get your husband interested in you again, it is time to flaunt it. And what better than some sexy lingerie! Almost all men put lacy underwear on their fantasy lists. The choices are myriad too. The no-brainer, hands-down win is a combination of black satin and lace, but you could also pick other colors that you feel compliment you better. Soft pastels, for example, are great to show off the tan, white has that playful, angelic feel and red is a total show stopper.
12. Invest in a sensual perfume
Men are virtual dogs when it comes to sniffing a woman’s perfume. It’s quite common for a guy to feel more desire for a woman who, he perceives, smells heavenly. A dab of sensual perfume is all it takes to add that element of desire to your persona. To keep him interested forever, religiously wear perfume after shower before bed to make him want you sexually. Don’t forget to spritz some in your hair to strengthen its effect. As that fragrant hair tumbles over his face, he will be sexually interested in you once again like he was all those years ago.
13. Tease him a little bit
When you’re done working on yourself and on your surroundings, it is time to invite him into the act, both explicitly and implicitly. Sex in a marriage can turn frightfully routine and dull and you need to change this asap. Playfulness is key to a romantically fulfilling sexual relationship with your husband. Don’t just wait for the act to happen at night; initiate it right through the day. Send him naughty texts when he’s at work, look into his eyes meaningfully at the dinner table, “accidentally” touch him intimately when you’re walking past each other. In the bedroom too, don’t just lie there. Make him work for it. Tantalize his senses by playing hard to get. Because when you’re hard to get, well, your husband will want to get you.
14. Get experimental in bed to keep him interested
Picking up on the routine issue again, don’t let sex with your husband get dull by following the same tried and tested methods over and over again. Change it up! For best results, categorically ask him about his fantasies. And execute as many as you can. Also tell him about yours and demand that he do the same for you. Your husband will be excited to see you so proactive in the bedroom and will sexually want you all over again.
Give and show your husband how much you love and appreciate them because if you don’t, someone else will. Treat them with the respect that they deserve and be exciting. Think outside the box and try out new things together. Being married is a commitment and dedication with another human being. He married you; he’s already interested in you. All you need are some fun and games and a lot of positivity in your relationship to make it a spicy affair!