At the beginning of a relationship, everything is exciting and you learn something new about your partner, every day. But, as time goes by, and you settle into more of a routine, rather than grow closer to one another, you can actually start to grow apart. This is no new phenomena, nor is it unusual, but there are things that you can do to bring yourself closer to your partner and strengthen the bond that you have with him.
If you feel that you and your partner are starting drift away from one another, read these tips on how to bridge that gap that may be growing between you:
1. Catch up with each other, every night
Don’t lose the habit of asking each other how the day went. Catching up on each other’s day can really help to bring you closer. It means that those times that are spent apart are not like a life that is separated from the relationship, they are an integral part of it that you can share. You can share your daily experiences and even help one another with advice too.
2. Listen and encourage one another
Proper communication is one of the first things to fly out the window, when you start to grow apart. Be open and honest with one another and share your thoughts and fears and give encouragement where it is needed. Make the time to talk and to listen, and then you can give each other the support that each of you needs.
3. Celebrate your successes together
Do you just say something like, ‘that’s nice dear’, when your partner comes home with good news? If you do, then show a little more interest in your partners’ success, whether they be at work or in his hobbies. These things are probably important to him, just as your achievements are important to you, so be pleased for one another, when things go right and, perhaps, go out for a meal to celebrate or, break out some champagne to mark the occasion.
4. Cooking together.
Cooking may be a chore, but cooking together always seems like a fun thing to do as a couple. Plan an exotic menu together and spend an evening or an afternoon cooking together at a leisurely pace.
5. Take shower together.
There are many couples who do. I know just as many couples, who don’t shower together. When one person is modest, they don’t like to shower, with their partner. As a marriage goes on, you shower less together. But it’s very romantic to take a shower together. Make it more romantic, go into the bathroom, light some candles, close the lights, turn on the shower, find the perfect water temperature, then start.
6. Inject something new into date nights
Keep up the dating habits, even when you’ve been together for a long time and don’t always go to the same place. Try new restaurants, new types of films and experiment with new things to do together. Variety is the spice of life, so keep dates interesting or they too will become just another routine.
7. Think about what you are saying in a fight
The closer we become to someone, the more comfortable we feel about expressing our emotions. In the main, this is a good thing, but the down side to it is that it can also make us say things in a fight that we would never dream of saying to anyone else. Hurtful comments, said in the heat of the moment, will be remembered for longer than you think, so take a pause for breath, before you say something really hurtful.
8. Turn the TV off!
TV has become such an integral part of our lives that many of us switch it on, as automatically as we would switch on the lights, as soon as we get home. You might think that you can talk to each other, while the TV is on, but you won’t be paying real attention to your conversation. Switch it off sometimes and have a real discussion with your partner.
9. Back rubs/massages.
The one of most romantic idea, to give a great back massage. There’s only one thing better than getting a great back massage, and that’s giving one! You’re giving somebody a gift that can relieve pain, anxiety, and stress, relax muscles, and contribute to their general sense of well-being.
10. Laugh together
When people laugh together, it strengthens the bond and brings them closer to each other, so goof around a bit have some fun. Go to a comedy club together and get your laughs that way, or just spend a night in reminiscing about some of the funny things that have happened through your relationship. Life is serious enough already, so bring a bit of laughter into your relationship and it will bring you closer.
11. Buy gifts for each other.
Gifts exchanged between partners should be symbolic of their love and commitment. No matter whether it is traditional or nontraditional, this gift should be meaningful, or at the very least, personal. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry, etc.. Make sure you remember the important dates and get anniversary cards, birthday cards, chocolates, and flowers too!
12. Watch the sunset together.
Every time the sun expires, you are watching an event that has never happened before in the history of the world. Sure, sunsets have occurred countless times, but how many times has the sun trailed off while you were with your beloved. This is a whole and unique event. Whisper sweet nothings and hold your loved one close. In the moments that the sun is sinking, pull him or her a little closer and reflect on your incredible luck that you two found one another in this great world.
What other things do you like to do with your partner that brings you closer?