Most women claim to want the nice guys who are sensitive, emotionally fluent and intimate. Yet, when it comes down to it, women consistently chase after the “bad boy,” the guy who is narcissistic, self-absorbed and avoids all forms of intimacy as if they were infectious diseases.
A woman’s dating preference is the ultimate paradox.
The thing is, while we’re constantly on the lookout for that super sweet, caring guy who will make a great companion, we’re actually attracted to the guy who ignites passion within us.
1. They completely forget women have a sexual side to them.
Just because someone is nice doesn’t mean they’re going to be a good partner or that they’re the right fit. Nice guys think simply because they’re nice a girl should want date them. They don’t get it takes a whole lot of other qualities and factors to make sexual chemistry and dating happen.
2. Their Personalities seems to be boring!
Nice guys are busy being nice instead of being genuine and real. The reason behind: They never want to hurt his girl! Bad boys keep it real and give a damn if the girl likes it or not, that’s not their problem!
3. They’re passive aggressive.
They often expect women to just know how they feel and don’t have the guts to say what they really think. Nice guys complain girls use them but they’re too scared to actually say something and let her know where they stand and what they expect.
4. They seem completely ingenuine.
Nice guys who act as if everything is great all the time are the worst. Everyone has bad days. Everyone has mistakes they’ve made. Someone who hasn’t gone through any sort of struggle in their life is hard to relate to. Even if the guy truly has a great life, if he doesn’t reveal any obstacles he’s overcome personally or professionally, it’s going to seem like he’s not keeping it real.
5. A nice guy isn’t an alpha male.
A great girl always wants to date a guy who can be in control of his life and gain the respect of his friends. If your friends don’t respect you or listen when you voice your opinions, it’s a sure sign that you’re a nice guy who gets walked over often, even by your ‘friends’.
6. They easily agree to everything.
Nice guys fake being sweet that doesn’t let them voice their opinion, and that causes them to get easily flustered. At other times, they might just end up bottling up their anger that suddenly burst out one day, out of the blue, hurting others and often leaving themselves alone.
7. Nice guys reek of desperation.
They come on too strong and just don’t get the hint. If a guy shows interest in a girl and she obviously isn’t interested he needs to accept the fact and either keep her as a friend or move on. They always become the guys girls later tell their friends about. “Ugh, you wouldn’t believe what he said/did last night.”
8. They’re terrible in bed.
They worked so hard to get laid only to end up not knowing what to do. They don’t have the experience or confidence to make a woman feel sexually fulfilled and satisfied.
9. They are needy & insecure.
Nice guys start off as sweet and caring, but end up becoming too needy and insecure in a relationship because they have trust issues. They look for ‘The One’, and every girl they end up dating is their prospective ‘The One’. They feel a change in the forces of the universe if their woman mentions another man.
10. They make women question if they’re someone we can rely on to protect us.
Even the most independent and self-sufficient woman wants to be with someone who, at the end of the day, makes her feel safe to be with. We want someone who can protect us if we need it. We want to know if some guy is talking shit to us our boyfriend is going to be there to help us out.
11. It’s easy to lose interest in a nice guy.
Even if women find a nice guy attractive and there’s initial chemistry, ultimately they lose interest in him. Nice guys aren’t interesting and there isn’t enough there to keep the chemistry alive. Basically, they’re boring.
12. Nice guys think the friend zone is a punishment.
Nice guys are always the kinds of guys who have to remind their female friends they’re just friends. They don’t understand people of the opposite sex can actually be friends and enjoy each other’s company without there being a sexual element to it.
13. Nobody takes them seriously.
No one takes a nice guy seriously because he never wants to offend anyone. He’s too accommodating and everyone treats him like a pushover. All they want is to be accepted and they’ll do whatever it takes to get there.
14. Nice guys get stressed by difficult situations.
A girl would want to date a guy who’s her rock and her strength, not a scared little pussy cat who’ll run away at the first chance he gets. Nice guys aren’t protective or aggressive enough. He can’t fight for his girl, and that’s one of the basic ‘evolutionary needs’ of a girl – to feel protected and secure around her man.
Is being a ‘nice’ guy… nice? Does not look like it. But hey, let me tell you one thing though: you are good enough for her. Be confident! Be honest – with yourself, and with her, and she will be happy to be by your side, and your relationship will be based on mutual affection, as opposed to being a one-sided love affair.
What do you think?