There’s just no denying that guys think with something other than their brain. It’s just the cold hard truth, and us ladies have to remember that. Fortunately for us, being a sexy girlfriend doesn’t have to do with what we look like nearly as much as you might think.
In fact, there can be ridiculously attractive girls who just aren’t sexy at all. Sexiness is much more about how you behave and your attitude more than it is about the way you look. Yes, your boyfriend may think visually, but it’s the cues he’s seeing that make him think you’re sexy.
Can you be sexy if you don’t feel sexy?
In short, yes. Haven’t you ever heard the phrase, “Fake it ‘till you make it?” Well, that’s exactly how you can be sexy, even if you don’t know how to be or you don’t necessarily feel like you’re the sexy type of girl.
Although you may have gone through life never feeling sexy before, it’s just because you didn’t really know how. Sure, some girls are kind of born to be sexy, while others have to learn how to do it. But either way, you can definitely be sexy even if you’re not feeling like you are.
That may sound like a tall order to fill, but with these tips on becoming the sexy girlfriend your boyfriend always wanted, you’ll learn how in no time. Now, go surprise him and be that sexy girl he knows you can be!
1. Find out what he likes.
Different guys find different things to be sexy. One guy may think you in a large t-shirt with your hair all messy is sexy, while another guy might think that looks lazy and unattractive.
Get to know him more and find out what he finds sexy. Listen to the comments he makes about certain girls in movies and whatnot. You can also pay attention to how he reacts to certain things you do. If he seems to think it’s sexy, do it more!
2. Gain some confidence.
Confidence is vital in portraying yourself as sexy, even if you don’t think you are. If you can have confidence, or even fake it, you’ll be much sexier to him than you were before.
3. Make eye contact often.
Never underestimate the power of eye contact. The reason this is so sexy is because it commands attention. If you walk into a room and slowly lift your lids and give your man eye contact, you’re making a connection out of pretty much nothing. That’s sexy.
4. Have a sense of humor.
You can ask a whole lot of people out there and they’ll all agree that in order to be a sexy girlfriend, you have to have a sense of humor. Nothing is sexier than a girl that can take a joke and not make a big deal out of it.
5. Use your smile.
Smiling is extremely warming and sexy. If you’ve got a great smile, USE IT. You can light up an entire room with a smile, and he’ll notice just how sexy that is.
6. Smell great.
Us ladies all agree that when a man smells good, it’s really sexy, right? Well, not surprisingly, guys think the same thing about when a girl smells good.
The secret to this is to wear perfume *not a lot* right before having sex. Then use that same perfume when you go out together, and it’ll automatically make him think about when you two were intimate. And that’s really sexy.
7. Get some sexy clothing.
This doesn’t mean lingerie, necessarily. Different guys have different clothes they think are sexy. If your guy thinks you’re sexiest in a pair of leggings with a simple t-shirt, then go buy that! However, buying something like lingerie that’s ONLY for his eyes can also be really sexy.
8. Be interested in his interests.
If he’s really into a certain book or movie or band, get interested in it, too. Obviously, don’t fake being into something just because he is. But gaining a genuine interest in his hobbies is going to be really sexy to him.
9. Play out his fantasies.
Does your man always bring up the fact that you’d look really sexy in a nurse outfit? Well, then wear one and play out his fantasies! Any girl that’s willing to compromise her pride – if the fantasy is embarrassing, at least – is going to be a really sexy girlfriend in the eyes of her boyfriend.
10. Don’t undress in order to be sexy.
This is a really bad mistake that a lot of girls make when they want to be sexy. They start wearing less, showing more cleavage and skin, and getting sleazy instead of sexy.
Something that’s really sexy to a guy is when you’re really modest and appropriate in public, but a total sex machine when you’re alone. Save the undressing for his eyes – and only when you’re meant to be undressed.
11. Have a healthy appetite.
Girls who can chow down a burger and fries is sexy to guys. If you want to be a sexy girlfriend, then you’ve got to have an appetite. I’m not saying you should fake loving crappy food. I’m saying that you should never hide or be embarrassed about the fact that you like to eat a lot of food.
12. Wear his t-shirt.
When you’re just hanging out at his place, or you just got done having sex, throw on his t-shirt and walk around in only that. You wouldn’t believe how sexy it is for a guy to watch you walk around half naked in his t-shirt.
13. Take it slow.
Going straight for the sex when you first get together with your boyfriend is not sexy. In fact, it’s kind of trashy, and he’ll see you as more promiscuous than you probably are. Take things slow and build up respect first.
Your man will think you’re SO sexy if he realized that you respect yourself, and he’ll also respect you – which only adds to how sexy he’ll think you are.
14. Touch him in all the right places and the right times.
No. Don’t grab his junk at every opportunity. That’s not sexy. But placing your hands in all the right places at the right times can work wonders in your favor.
When he walks past you, lightly touch his shoulder. When you hug him, brush your fingers through his hair. These little moments of contact can make you seem extremely sexy in his eyes.
15. Be yourself.
I know this is said time and time again, but there’s a reason for it. You have to be yourself if you ever hope to be seen as the sexy girlfriend.
When you’re trying to be someone else, you’re not genuine, and being fake isn’t sexy at all. Be yourself and you’ll find that the right boyfriend is going to find you to be the sexiest girlfriend he’s ever had.
Being sexy isn’t just about looking the part. There’s a lot more that goes into being the sexy girlfriend your boyfriend always wanted, and these tips will help get you there.