Oftentimes we make the mistake of measuring how much someone loves us simply by how they make us feel, or how overt they are about the behaviors that we think represent their feelings toward us. Finding someone who loves you just as much as you love them is practically an impossible feat. No two people love the same, and everyone develops feelings at their own rate. If you’ve been dating someone for a while and are starting to catch some serious feelings, don’t just rely on their disclosure to let you know if they feel the same. There are a few hints they may give to tell you that they love you so so so much. Buying you flowers, paying for your dinner, making uninterrupted eye contact with you during said dinner — these are all classic signs that someone is into you.
1. They answer your text messages like always
You just texted him “hey sweetie, where are you?” and 2 seconds later you got an answer with the full address and location of their whereabouts. If you are still wondering how can they text back so fast, you are missing the point. If that’s not a sign that they love you, then what is?
2. They’re loyal to you
It’s not that they say they’ll be loyal to you, but that they actually are. You could never dream of them being unfaithful or speaking ill of you behind your back — yet you don’t realize what a rarity and privilege it is.
3. They mirror your movements
Mimicry has to do with a lot more than sympathy (i.e. the way we reel back sympathetically when someone gets hurt) it has something to do with affection too. One study from the American Psychological Association noted that subtle mirroring is a sign of attraction in humans.
4. They see their future with you
At this point in your relationship, you really like your partner and you enjoy spending time with him/her, but you can tell that they definitely love you more than you love them by listening to their ideas about the future. While you’re just sitting there trying to figure out what you’re going to have for lunch tomorrow, your partner is planning their future…and their future obviously includes you!
5. They want to be with you at any cost
They want to spend some quality time with you even if they have a lot of work at their office. But they will always find a way to be with you. They might make some lame excuses and might not want to go out but they can have some better plans. That doesn’t mean they dont love you.
6. They are doing things you way
A person who makes sacrifices for you is a person who cares for you. They don’t have to be dramatic, storybook-type sacrifices, like giving up his job or leaving her home or anything that intense. They’re usually not even obvious. It’s things like agreeing to go to a restaurant he hates because you love the menu there, or she want the house neat and tidy when she visit your flat and painfully you keep it neat and tidy. Its obviously a sign of true love.
7. They remember all small details
When you really like someone, you are normally ultra-aware and switched on when they are around. Even if you are usually a blasé person, you will find yourself paying attention to what she says and how he says it. So a person who cares more about you than everyone else will really listen to the things you say, whether he/she wants to or not, and will remember the finer details.
8. They want to commit, and commit for good
Even if prior to knowing you they were all up on the “I want to live my life sans a relationship” train, they have since gotten off at the next stop, and are firmly planting their feet in their relationship with you. They realize that they don’t have to give up their personal freedom or happiness or autonomy for a relationship — but even if they did, you’re worth it.
9. They want to change for you
While you can’t change anybody (nor can you expect them to change because you want them to), when someone really loves you, they usually want to change themselves. They want to be better for you, to be the best version of themselves possible.