Love makes you do silly things. Even when you’ve learnt the don’t-trust-so-easily lesson countless times, you’d trust the guy you’re with in a heartbeat. One shouldn’t rush into something like this. Because once trust is broken in any way, the relationship would wither away in no time. Have you ever trusted a man too quickly and ended up disappointed?
Here are some tips to check before investing yourself in a new relationship as well as all the answers you need to the question, how do you know you can trust him?
1. He shares all his feelings.
Being honest about all of his thoughts and feelings is one of the biggest signs you can trust your partner. Openness and vulnerability in conversation—their willingness to really open up their heart and share what they’re really thinking, even if it puts them at risk for ridicule and being criticized for you—that is a scary thing in a lot of relationships. Even if it takes a couple hours (or even a couple days) for your partner to open up, that emotional discussion shows a deep level of trust.
2. He only has eyes for you.
No girl can distract him. Even if your guy is the overtly-friendly kind, when in a relationship, he’d watch his habits around other girls. If he’s flirting around, maybe he needs just a little more time to get there. You can always tell him how you feel about the situation. Don’t be jumping to any conclusions, but don’t be placing your trust in him too soon either. If he changes his ways in due time, great! But if he doesn’t, maybe things need some reconsideration.
3. You’ve known this person for at least a year.
You may not be able to help falling for someone, but you can help letting him or her know too early. Once you say those three words, your relationship goes to the next level; it will never be able to level back down again. Once you love someone, you’re supposed to love that person forever.
4. He is there for you.
A huge part of knowing whether you can trust a guy is measuring his loyalty to you. You should be able to count on him when you need him the most. It could be moving some boxes, being a shoulder to cry on if someone close to you dies, or something really simple like changing a light bulb. If he jumps at the chance to help you out during your time of need, you can probably trust him with your heart.
5. She gushes about details of the day.
A partner with nothing to hide will give you consistent stories that don’t have big gaps of information. There’s trust if they’re willing to talk about things, give you details, sometimes share additional details, and have no hesitations.
6. He takes a keen interest in your life.
Isn’t it nice when you’re going on and on about your day to your guy, he listens to you without complaining? It’s even better when he asks you about work, friends, family and what not. He keeps up with everything going on in your life. Why else would he ask you about all this if he weren’t truly interested in you and invested in the relationship. He pays attention to what you have to say and never misses out on an opportunity to get to know you better.
7. She trusts you wholeheartedly.
When you tell her that you are going out on a with your friends, you do not have to worry about being bombarded with texts from her asking about your every move. She trusts your judgement and does not show any jealousy when you are not together.
8. She goes out of her way to put you at ease.
Accept your partner’s gestures of faithfulness if you’ve been feeling insecure. For instance, if you feel threatened about her attractive business partner but she offers to introduce you to him, she’s going out of your way to prioritize your relationship. It’s always important to show your partner that they come first. It’s just going out of your way to make sure your partner isn’t feeling insecure and untrusting.
9. His questions don’t feel like an interrogation.
Often—though not always—people get suspicious of a partner because they can imagine themselves making the problems they accuse their partner of. So if your partner trusts you, he won’t give off those skeptical vibes. You show support by displaying that you do, in fact, believe and trust that person by taking their word at face value, not grilling them. Wholehearted acceptance of what that person is saying or asking follow-up questions that show interest in what happened as opposed to what did or did not happen show trust.
10. She doesn’t care much about you seeing her phone.
If you’ve ever just randomly pick up her phone and she tries to snatch it out of your hands, an alarm should definitely go off. If she’s got nothing to hide, then that is definitely not the reaction you should get. The reality must be quite different in that case. If she’s able to comfortably check her phone in front of you, answer calls or texts, it’s a good sign.
11. You feel increasingly comfortable around him.
This is only possible when he creates an environment, where you know for sure that there are going to be no lies, secrets or judgments. He’s going to tell you the most embarrassing things about himself and you’d have no trouble countering them with an equally embarrassing story of yours. If he confesses to something humiliating, you’d feel no shame in doing the same. This sort of comfort comes only when you have unwavering trust in a relationship. And that doesn’t come easy, but it’s definitely worth it.