Real-life nice guys are the men you meet who aren’t looking for accolades for doing what’s right. They’ll slow down for a turtle crossing the road, even if nobody’s watching. They’ll ask the person serving their coffee how their day is going, and they’ll genuinely want to know. They won’t play games when you meet them, and they won’t put up with your crap or manufactured drama because they know nice when they see it, and picking fights isn’t nice.
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They used to try to convince us that marriage is something that happens between families, it is not something individuals like the bride and groom are supposed to take too personally. Of course we rebelled, and then we learnt that they weren’t that off the mark either.
In so many ways, we find that most conflicts between us are really about the differences between the boy his parents have raised and the girl my parents have raised.
1. Learn to love
He will teach you by example what love really is. What it means to give and receive love. He’ll expand your heart and open you up to feel something bigger than yourself again.
2. Learn to feel safe
You’ll feel safe. He’ll give you the strength to pursue your passions, and to bring your goals and soul back to life. The unknown, once scary as hell, is now an adventure you’re willing to take.
3. Learn to speak truth
You’ll learn what it means to speak your truth again. To not be afraid to voice yourself and your opinion without starting and argument or offending the other person, because he’ll welcome everything you have to say and won’t want to fight, but explore your viewpoint with you.
4. Learn to Laugh in the face of adversity
Guys can seem insensitive, the way that they can make jokes about bad situations, but that’s their way of dealing with things and it seems to work. Men don’t sit around agreeing with each other how bad the world around them is, they make a joke about it and move on to something else.
5. Learn to be happy
He will teach you what it means to create a happy home, a beautiful family and a better bond with all the people you love. You’ll learn how to connect better with others because he’s taught you how to connect better with him.
6. Learn to be self-focussed
Men are often criticised for this, but it is a trait that some women could learn from. Women are sometimes so focused on other people that they forget to be kind to themselves. A little bit of healthy and positive selfishness is good for everyone, from time to time.