So you’ve been seeing a woman that you think you could have a future with. You look forward to the dates, you like what she has to say, you love to hear her laugh and you’re constantly texting each other. Things are going so well and you’re ready to take it to the next level — whether you’re taking her upstairs or retreating to her place — soon. Though you may think it’s easier to just ask her what she wants, saying, “Wanna have sex?” may not give you the reaction you expected. Instead, if you really want to know if your girlfriend wants to have sex with you, you should pay attention to what she says and how she acts to get the big picture.
If you want to know how to tell if your lady is ready to get intimate, just follow these steps:
1. She gets touchy.
If your girlfriend can’t keep her hands off of you and is always touching you, has her arms around you, or wants you to hold her hand, put your arm around her, or even drape her across your lap, then she may be ready for more. If her actions have been getting more sexual — like if she’s touching your manhood through your pants, or placing your hands on her breasts — then she may be ready for something more. If she’s more physical around you, then this means she’s probably more comfortable around you. And she’ll only have sex with you if she feels comfortable with you.
2. She gives you her consent.
Surely you are not a rapist and will not force the woman into it. So what are we talking about here? Well, in most cases, it’s not an event, but rather is a process. And you go through it step by step. And on each of these steps, you should get her consent and see how she reacts. You touch her for the first time and see what she does. Does she pull away or draws closer? You kiss for the first time and see how she reacts. And so on and so forth. If she consents and enjoys every step of it, you can know for sure; she really wants you!
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3. She wants a lot of alone time.
If suddenly, your girlfriend’s friends are nowhere to be found, and she wants to spend a lot of time alone with you, in one of your homes or bedrooms, then it’s likely that she wants to get intimate — to some degree. If she wasn’t ready for sex, then she’d be more likely to avoid any uncomfortable situations where you’re completely alone and wanting more than she can give you.
4. She invites you over her place.
If you’ve never been alone in her place before, and she invites you in, then she may be telling you she wants something more from you. If she conveniently picks a date night location near her place and then casually steers you in the direction of her home, then she may be telling you that she wants to get intimate. This takes some planning and foresight, so it’s likely she’s put a lot of thought into getting you alone in her place.
5. She becomes inquisitive.
She asks about your plans or the place you live in and its availability. It’s first sex, man. Do not count on it to be quick and hot. Women love it to be romantic, passionate and time-consuming. So, she may be checking up on your plans and time availability. She may want to spend the whole night and part of the morning with you afterward. Or she would like to know how beautiful the place is you take her to for the first experience. Pay attention to such questions. And make sure you have both – the time and a nice place to take her to! Clean up your house and make it as romantic and lovely, as you can!
6. She compliments you.
If a girl tells you nice things or compares you to some hot celebrity, she is into you. And it’s not just about romance; it’s the desire! She wants to flatter you so that you can warm up to her and become at ease when the subject of sex comes up. Her compliments can also be sexual, like, “nice ass” or “nice abs”.
7. She talks about sex more often.
If your girlfriend is ready to take the next step with you, it’s likely that she’ll be talking about sex more. She can do this in a lot of different ways, from talking about your friends who just started having sex, to casually asking your opinion on sexual topics. If the word “sex” is on the tip of her tongue, then it’s obviously on her mind. If she mentions sex while you’re alone together, then it’s even more likely that she wants to have sex with you.
8. She licks or bites her lips.
It could be consciously or subconsciously, but either way this gesture means she’s sexually attracted to you. In fact, it’s one of the clearest signs a woman wants to sleep with you.
9. She just tells you she’s turned on.
This is a pretty bold move, but yes, your lady may just tell you that she’s in the mood, feeling frisky, or just wants to hook up. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants to have sex, but if she’s comfortable enough to tell you that she’s in the mood for something intimate, then it’s not a leap that she may want to have sex with you.
10. She talks dirty.
Sexting is a sexy part of your couple hood, right from the beginning and even before you get intimate. Nelson says that when a woman is toying with the idea of taking the sexual game to the next level, she might start sending some scantily-clad photos and descriptive blue bubbles your way. If your girlfriend has started talking dirty to you over the phone, sending you dirty texts, talking dirty when you’re making out or doing something more, or even having phone sex with you, then she may be ready to take it to the next level. Of course, this could all just be talk, but if she’s comfortable enough with herself and you to go this far, then she may be ready for more.
11. She takes interest in your sexual history.
A lot of women are cautious, and before they have sex with a man, they want to know exactly what they’re getting themselves into (health or pleasure wise). So be prepared for indirect or even direct questions about your relationships, girlfriends, sex life, etc.
12. She does tongue kissing.
If she is open for that, she is testing you, how good it would feel to go for more! So, do not get completely carried away when kissing. Pay attention to what she does and how she reacts on your touches, tongue, etc.